Stages of Limerence?

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  1. So here’s a big message to anyone who even thinks they might be a Limerent Object (LO): KNOCK IT OFF & STOP MINDFUC*ING US! It’s cruel, mean, inconsiderate and sinful to flirt with others just to get your own ego stroked! You are possibly causing major PAIN for another person when you are evasively on-off flirtatious.

    (We need an ANGRY emoticon here Website Admin!)

  2. Thxs Jase. I once gave this paper to a colleague, training to be a psychotherapist, that had been an LO to another peer. Upon reading it, she realised what she had put this other person through, purely for her own narcissistic supply. She felt huge remorse and guilt. I think if our LO’s knew how much of a mind-fuck limerence is, they would think teice with the game playing. then again, most of its unconscious and in my experience our LO;’s find it hard to take personal responsibility for their their contribution to our limerence.

    Ultimately though, limerence is our issue and we are the ones that need to work on our own shit. We don’t needs our LO;’s for that. They are just the teacher that appeared when we were ready for the lesson.

  3. Holy shit. Never knew there was a term for this but it looks like I’ve got a lot of reading to do.

  4. OMG!!!! So there is actually a term for this!!!! WOW!

    Omg thank you SO much for this article and this website! For YEARS I’ve been suffering from this, and never even knew that it was a “condition”! I just figured that every woman has “crushes” on guys like this. Smh…

    Now that I take a step back and I’m reading all of this information on limerence, I’m now seeing that it is indeed NOT “normal”, and I’m dong my best to read up some more on how to get rid of this merry-go-around. Thankfully, after a HUGE case of limerence years ago, I finally started to realize that I never want to be so attached and infatuated with someone who doesn’t reciprocate feelings ever again! I learned my lesson BIG time.

    But I still find that I suffer from this (albeit to a lesser degree), so now I’m just trying to figure out what to do. Thank goodness for this site. It’s been a HUGE eye-opener! It’s almost scary because it describes me EXACTLY on the nose. 😀

  5. Hi Crystal

    I remember that ah ha moment when i realized what i was grappling with had a name. Its been a gateway to much growth, mostly hard fought. Many of us suffering from limerence come an an acceptance we have psychological issues that need addressing. Check out the forum – there is good support there.

  6. Thank you so much David! I appreciate the feedback. 🙂

    Yes, I’m wondering too if it’s a psychological issue that’s causing this as well. I don’t think it’s a deep one (because otherwise I FEEL perfectly fine), but I think that because of my childhood upbringing (especially due to my father), I don’t love myself as much as I SHOULD. I never got any POSITIVE validation from him. His love was very conditional, he was strict, emotionally unavailable, overbearing, harsh spankings, and living in that environment really messed up my self-esteem growing up. 🙁

    I NEVER doubted that he loved my sister and me, but it was just hard living w/him. 🙁

    Btw, where is the forum located on this site?

  7. Nevermind….I found the forum lol! 😀

  8. Noah Body says:

    I’m still young(13.5) and I already have limerence for someone. I was in love with them for 8 months and told no one(which ripped me to pieces even more) and finally I told 2 of my friends who later told my LO(limerent object) I liked him. He said he didn’t have feelings for me back, so I became EXTREMELY depressed(not going into detail about that). Im still in love with him and every little thing such as a glance can uplift me insanely and things so much as only seeing him walk by once in the day ripped me to pieces and made me so emotional. To this day, its been a year and a half and I’m still in love with him, and constantly sad. Any advice?

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