Feelings

[L-F]

A recent post got me thinking about how many limerents, in general, are afraid to ask for clarification when stumped by LOs behavior, words, actions, etc. I know I was like a bull in a china shop and wanted, scrap that, demanded answers LO was not prepared to discuss. I never got any answers but in all honesty, it never was LO's problem.

However, prior to today, it never occurred to me that if someone says something confusing, I very rarely, if ever, ask for clarification, which is on me.

It would be interesting to do a poll on how many are afraid to seek clarification regarding mixed signals and whether it's a limerent thing (something that impacts limerents more) or a thing most people do?

My guess is its a thing most people avoindant-prone do to avoid conflict or the possibility of feeling hurt. A protection of sorts. Some people like myself, don't want to hear what they don't want to hear instead of facing it head on. Which leaves me wondering how much I've missed out on in life (in general), by hiding behind the fear of the unknown, or the fear of getting hurt.

Just some L-F musings for the day...

[katewatson2024]

I am 50/50. In my current LO situation, I faced it head on because I wanted to know rather than not. I wanted to know if I'm misinterpreting my friend's words and action or they were feeling something. It turns out they were not feeling the same as I. Now, you can say because you're limerent you're reading into things but in my case there were clear indicators of affection which I have never experienced in other friendships - very close ones with dear friends. So, this was a special, a very unusual case, and even if I was not limerent, I would probably ask the question if my friend was into me. Now, we cleared the air and can move on.

[JupiterTaco]

I used to be in the camp that wanted clarification. Now if anybody's giving any mixed signals it's an automatic no for me. Also if I've made my lack of interest clear and somebody keeps pushing that's another red flag no for me.