david.perlIm releasing my limerence was a great proving ground in how to deal with narcissists. It was also a great distraction from dealing with the origins of my limerence. What I learned from my LE, especially about the drama triangle, is now being tested at a deeper level as i start to have more honest conversations with my dad (posted elsewhere here) and how he and my 3 sisters continue to try and use the drama triangle to get their narcissistic supply.
Going NC from LO was a piece of cake compared to the next challenge i face. LO was a fantasy. My dad and 3 sisters are not fantasies. Whilst going NC with narcs seems to be the perceived wisdom, i can’t help feeling that this will limit the opportunities for me to build better connections with my father and work on my attachment wounds.
And yet with their lack of self awareness, it’s proving a huge challenge to not just once again walk away from the crazy making ways of my entire FOO that leave me somatizing and feeling discombobulated.
