Tank you, I am reading and learning everything about this. I can definititely relate to the feeling described by the members here, somewhat. Not everything of course, but as everybody else I have had crushes on people before, the one thing I really can’t relate to is the anxuiosness and agony part of it. To me my crushes have for most part been about happiness fun and joy. Not this extreme type of addiction and obsession, that is described here. And not for so long periods of time. Of course I have been in love unhappily with people that didnt reciprocated my feelings but it didnt cause me that much agony and pain.L-F wrote: ↑Mon Feb 12, 2024 11:13 pm Wow Angel, that's a fascinating history with him.
Have a look around the forum at other stories and you might find something similar. It sounds like he cherished your friendship. Could you be viewing it as an obsession instead of friendship? What makes you think it's limerence?
I'd love to hear more if you feel up to sharing.
What makes me think he is limirent? Well he had written many letters over the years where he describes his feelings. I have always believed it was a super crush or something but that it would go away when I didnt return the feelings. But the years went by and it
didnt go away so I thought to myself, wow this really was a hell of a crush.
And it was his descriprion of the feelings of this urge to reach out and the agony of not doing so in respect of my marriage, even If he wanted to so bad. And the description of me as a perfect woman (believe me I am somewhat old, and not even good looking). So the blindness to my very obvious flaws I guess is what ked me to this conclusion.