Narratives

[L-F]

This isn't so much about limerence as it is about LF being on her soapbox

But seriously, those narratives that drive us away from being authentic. Yep. It's about them. I'm no expert. I'm not a scientist, doctor, influencer, whatever. I'm a Jane Duex who questions what drives people and from my experience, it's mostly EGO. Feel wounded? It's probably your ego. Feel left out? Second best? Not good enough? It could be your ego talking. Yes emotional traumatic wounds exist, so too does ego.

Work out what is a genuine need vs an egotistical need and you'll be able to start to define your [genuine] boundaries that serves a higher purpose. This goes for limerence too. Desire vs [genuine] need for fulfillment. The salve to soothe all ailments is not LO, it's self love propelled by self awareness and boundaries.

One does not need to be an 'expert' on psychology, spirituality, neuroscience, etc, to know there's a difference in the two [genuine desire vs ego]. All you have to do is sit quietly and ask yourself. Not me. Not an expert. Your intuition. Your higher self (or God if religious). Just sit, and listen.

[vesseloflight]

One does not need to be an 'expert' on psychology, spirituality, neuroscience, etc, to know there's a difference in the two [genuine desire vs ego]. All you have to do is sit quietly and ask yourself. Not me. Not an expert. Your intuition. Your higher self (or God if religious). Just sit, and listen.

Thank you for this post. I like reading your thoughts. I think my higher self is so bored of my ego. Ha. I have finally come to terms that my ego will never go away. I just have to live with it and know that it likes to make an appearance. Hopefully, my higher self will be able to squash it more often than not! I am so sick of my ego. I named her Mrs. Bitterness and Spite.

[L-F]

I named her Mrs. Bitterness and Spite.

Love it! Jung I imagine would classify them as a shadow (same thing in my eyes), that devil on the shoulder thing. You're right, doubt we can be free of them, only aware when they poke their heads up.

[Keater]

Hello!
I feel I’m mixed. I know part of it is ego, and very much so. But the part of me that looks for things like this does stem from a lack of intimacy in my marriage.
I don’t feel physically or sometimes emotionally wanted, so it becomes an internal challenge. Can I make them want me? If they do, I “win”. Even though I might not really want them at all myself.
Realizing I am well into my 4th year with this current LO. It’s a long “game”.
I like the idea of taking it up a notch. Sitting with it and see if any answers arise.