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No no no no no I must be done.

Open forum ... what's on your mind? Want to vent or lament about your Limerent/Love Object? This is the ideal place.
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PhoenixJB
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No no no no no I must be done.

Post by PhoenixJB » Mon Mar 16, 2020 6:45 pm

Eeee gads. I messaged him asking if he was home from his weekend trip. He saw it, no response.

Which sometimes he responds a little later, BUT. The way I am feeling right now?? So crushed and embarrassed and insecure?

YEAH. That has to STOP. Oh HELL NO I will not continue to put myself in the position where I feel like this.

I am way more interested in this than he is. I am so embarrassed. Ugh. And just crushed beyond belief.

I should not put myself in front of anything that can destroy me so easily. What is wrong with me??

PhoenixJB
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Re: No no no no no I must be done.

Post by PhoenixJB » Mon Mar 16, 2020 6:49 pm

He just watched my stories so I am somewhat appeased, but....

of course I am because that is the limerence.

Argh. What is this hell???

PhoenixJB
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Re: No no no no no I must be done.

Post by PhoenixJB » Mon Mar 16, 2020 6:53 pm

ohmygosh ohmygosh he responded. eeeek!!!

see this is madness, it must not continue!!!!!!!!!

how do I stay strong????

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Re: No no no no no I must be done.

Post by MrSpock » Mon Mar 16, 2020 7:33 pm

Block him from FB.

The only way out is thru...

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Re: No no no no no I must be done.

Post by LovesickRandy » Mon Mar 16, 2020 8:20 pm

For me I'm convinced I have to stop my focus on the LO and put 100% of my energy on me. The source of all my problems is a very serious issue with myself which leaves me vulnerable to a variety of things including limerence that is unhealthy emotionally and mentally. It might be good for you to spend some time thinking about why you're reacting to the way you are or get a therapist to help you. I currently am going the therapist route because I really don't think I am anywhere strong enough emotionally to deal with the problems. I don't know if it will help or work, but I'm literally down to last resort option.
Married - 57 yrs old
LO is single - 37 yrs old - works for me

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Re: No no no no no I must be done.

Post by JMS164 » Tue Mar 17, 2020 10:00 pm

You're three posts, Phoenix, capture the limerence nightmare in a nutshell. Bravo!

In all seriousness, though, the reaching out thing is torture. Likely, he has no idea how it affects you if he responds quickly or slowly.

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Re: No no no no no I must be done.

Post by moonbeams1225 » Thu Mar 19, 2020 12:24 am

PhoenixJB wrote:
Mon Mar 16, 2020 6:49 pm
He just watched my stories so I am somewhat appeased, but....

of course I am because that is the limerence.

Argh. What is this hell???
My LO watches all of my stories too, and that doesn’t help.
Married with co-worker LO My current goal: NC until he gives me the attention I want ( never went longer than 4 days :-o and whenever I feel like contacting him, I will come here.

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Re: No no no no no I must be done.

Post by WishMagick » Thu Mar 19, 2020 12:59 am

moonbeams1225 wrote:
Thu Mar 19, 2020 12:24 am
PhoenixJB wrote:
Mon Mar 16, 2020 6:49 pm
He just watched my stories so I am somewhat appeased, but....

of course I am because that is the limerence.

Argh. What is this hell???
My LO watches all of my stories too, and that doesn’t help.
Same here. It drives me nuts, actually. Sometimes I wish he wouldn't. Then I could just tell myself that he doesn't even care that I exist. But, that's obviously not true. And I somehow turn that into hope that he might have "feelings" for me. Ugh.
Married - 38.5 yrs old
LO is married - 32 yrs old
(He lives next door)

I'm a SAHM and indie musician. "My unyielding melancholy brings all the existentialists to the yard"

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