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Processing through stuff here led me to identify this as 'limerence' . In recent times this feeling was only evoked by people, people I thought would just solve my life, possessing them would fix EVERYTHING.
It's not just people though, it's how I approach everything that moves me , or gives meaning to my life, I want to use it to fill myself up, to end my angst, and when it doesn't do that, cos NOTHING can do that, I feel angry and dissatisfied.
NOTHING CAN SOLVE MY LIFE, or fill me up. I know that. I'm not complaining though, just thinking out loud. This is how I've always related to things , people, different interests.
Just Limerent towards everything.
I don't know what do with this Information, or how to be otherwise, at least I know that THIS new thing that Im after , is not the end to my problems.
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I've always known that I have very high and unrealistic expectations about things in general. And that definitely includes relationships (platonic and romantic). Always expecting something to be "the answer" or "the fix" and it comes from a general emptiness inside that can never really seem to be filled?
Is that what you mean? I feel like that. Definitely.
"Being spiritual has nothing to do with what you believe and everything to do with your state of consciousness."
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- Faith Hope Love
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Some of your experiences that you share remind me of the Enneagram Type 4 personality. If you’re interested, you can check it out. I like the Enneagram because I found it helpful for finding some core issues and how to address them. I am a Type 3 and been able to do a lot of helpful work around that.
Here’s a link to their website: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions
I don’t mean to tell you your personality type. That’s something you have to determine for yourself. They have a test there you can take if you want. Don’t know if that costs money though. Or if you’re interested. Just the overall dissatisfaction in life that you shared reminded me of the Type 4, “individualist.“
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I am like that, that is part of my obsessive tenancies.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
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Otherwise, in general I tend to get "special interests" and then just blab about them to anyone who will listen. And then after some amount of time I burn out. Doctor Who was one, the McElroy brothers were kind of one, Sufjan...
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The good news: I am doing well in my career, which requires this component, and am finally making $$$. (Sorry, non-capitalists, but it's been a long time coming!)
The bad news: I approach every new idea as if it's going to be THE big thing in my life. So I'll do things like sign up for conferences and buy plane tickets first...then have to figure out why I'm going and how to make the most of it. It's backwards. All impulse driven. Like a child with a new toy every time.
Faith Hope Love, thanks for the info on Enneagram. I'm intrigued! Beyond Myers-Briggs we go. And of course, I will likely obsess about this new personality type and retrofit my life around it.
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Ditto....and also took me a long time to really see that connection in my life.