1 Month Later NC

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brandon
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1 Month Later NC

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I'm functioning well again. I am performing my work duties with better focus and have been interacting with friends and family more.
I still think about LO. There is always that wish she would message me out of the blue. It's not as bad as before.

Because she reciprocated and we had amazing sex, I often think about our sexual escapades. My thoughts are often more lustful instead of "being together". With previous ex's that I no longer had feelings for, I sometimes fantasize about them sexually. Perhaps it's a sign I'll be less emotionally invested in my thoughts.

What I'd like honestly is to free of any thoughts but it's just a matter of time. NC seems to be doing the trick.

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brandon wrote:
Wed Jan 15, 2020 4:20 pm
I'm functioning well again. I am performing my work duties with better focus and have been interacting with friends and family more.
I still think about LO. There is always that wish she would message me out of the blue. It's not as bad as before.

Because she reciprocated and we had amazing sex, I often think about our sexual escapades. My thoughts are often more lustful instead of "being together". With previous ex's that I no longer had feelings for, I sometimes fantasize about them sexually. Perhaps it's a sign I'll be less emotionally invested in my thoughts.

What I'd like honestly is to free of any thoughts but it's just a matter of time. NC seems to be doing the trick.
Good on you, Brandon!! :-bd

You are right--it is just a matter of time. I've had those same thoughts with my LOs and figured I was doomed to carry that yearning forever...but it always dissipates after NC.

Keep on looking forward.
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Bettyboo
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Well done!! It’s reassuring to read your update and I’m glad things are getting easier.

Two weeks NC here. I’m struggling massively today. The thoughts of him seem to have reached a peak and I’m desperate for him to get in touch. Things ended very badly and I know he won’t contact me. I can’t wait for the day that I no longer think about him.

brandon
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Re: 1 Month Later NC

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Bettyboo wrote:
Wed Jan 15, 2020 8:36 pm
Well done!! It’s reassuring to read your update and I’m glad things are getting easier.

Two weeks NC here. I’m struggling massively today. The thoughts of him seem to have reached a peak and I’m desperate for him to get in touch. Things ended very badly and I know he won’t contact me. I can’t wait for the day that I no longer think about him.
Stay in there! You'll have relapses here and there but it only gets easier. I'm taking a language course as well this weekend to stay busy!

brandon
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Cookie wrote:
Wed Jan 15, 2020 4:32 pm
brandon wrote:
Wed Jan 15, 2020 4:20 pm
I'm functioning well again. I am performing my work duties with better focus and have been interacting with friends and family more.
I still think about LO. There is always that wish she would message me out of the blue. It's not as bad as before.

Because she reciprocated and we had amazing sex, I often think about our sexual escapades. My thoughts are often more lustful instead of "being together". With previous ex's that I no longer had feelings for, I sometimes fantasize about them sexually. Perhaps it's a sign I'll be less emotionally invested in my thoughts.

What I'd like honestly is to free of any thoughts but it's just a matter of time. NC seems to be doing the trick.
Good on you, Brandon!! :-bd

You are right--it is just a matter of time. I've had those same thoughts with my LOs and figured I was doomed to carry that yearning forever...but it always dissipates after NC.

Keep on looking forward.
Appreciate it. I keep thinking about that one beer commerical "Stay thirsty my friends" but instead "stay busy my friends"

Bettyboo
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Thanks Brandon, definitely need to keep busy and away from my phone!!

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