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How to disclose without really disclosing?

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Pattihopeful
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Re: How to disclose without really disclosing?

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Re: How to disclose without really disclosing?

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Bridget wrote:
Wed Oct 09, 2019 11:00 pm
marko wrote:
Wed Oct 09, 2019 5:14 pm
Wanting to disclose is just an attempt to keep this going. Perhaps an awkward end is needed, but even that ends nothing as long as the thoughts continue to toy with the LO and possible positive outcomes.
I lean toward this view as well. On the other hand, not disclosing can be a way to keep hope alive.

The reasoning that finally ended my intense desire to disclose was that it wouldn't be fair to my LO to tell him because he's married. I decided that a loving friend wouldn't do anything that might lead the other friend to feel dissatisfied in his marriage.

Notice the reverse-reverse psychology I used there? AS IF knowing that I had feelings for him would put LO in this terrible state of temptation that would make him unhappy. Yes, I have that power over men... :)) It's laughable, but it works for me!
No, I get the mental gymnastics here. I didn't want to disclose to my wife because I knew the only reason I did was so that she'd want to leave me.

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