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No, I get the mental gymnastics here. I didn't want to disclose to my wife because I knew the only reason I did was so that she'd want to leave me.Bridget wrote: ↑Wed Oct 09, 2019 11:00 pmI lean toward this view as well. On the other hand, not disclosing can be a way to keep hope alive.
The reasoning that finally ended my intense desire to disclose was that it wouldn't be fair to my LO to tell him because he's married. I decided that a loving friend wouldn't do anything that might lead the other friend to feel dissatisfied in his marriage.
Notice the reverse-reverse psychology I used there? AS IF knowing that I had feelings for him would put LO in this terrible state of temptation that would make him unhappy. Yes, I have that power over men... It's laughable, but it works for me!
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