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Yesnomaybeso
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I've officially transferred

Post by Yesnomaybeso » Thu Jul 11, 2019 3:26 am

Wow just wow. Finally getting somewhere and boom. I don't even know them irl. Someone who lives over the other side of the world. The only difference... they actually feel the same. Just a word of advice. Being self aware isn't enough. I had that... and look at me. I feel love.. different to the other LE yet I know it's just projections.. both of us. I want to save them I want to move to be with them. It's all bullshit yet I feel it. I need to separate again. It's codependency at its finest. Another wounded soul I'm attracted too. Another way to not have to focus on my own issues. This just sucks.

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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by NoDayDreaming » Thu Jul 11, 2019 4:34 am

wow! indeed. i see that tendency in myself too. i posted about it recently, knowing about it does not make you immune. at least i was able to see it very early on before it was overpowering. the temptation was strong. dopamine feels good, doesn't it?
I'm limerence free and I'm not afraid of it anymore. I learn something new about myself and life everyday. There is hope and so much more. NC works. Be free, be happy! In retrospect, LE was about the best thing that has happened in my life.

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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by Spinnaker » Thu Jul 11, 2019 4:55 am

Yesnomaybeso

Glad you posted. Sounds so frustrating. Lots of support here.

Are you both single? I
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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by L-F » Thu Jul 11, 2019 6:10 am

Go easy on yourself and travel well while on this journey.

It's all a learning curve.
If only we'd sit with the void too... then perhaps we won't need to fill it once we get over the fear of its existence. L-F

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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by David » Thu Jul 11, 2019 7:22 am

L-F wrote:
Thu Jul 11, 2019 6:10 am
Go easy on yourself and travel well while on this journey.
i hope you dont mean travel to the other side of the world to be with the new LO =)) =))
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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by L-F » Thu Jul 11, 2019 9:06 am

=))
I meant the journey thru life in general :D
If only we'd sit with the void too... then perhaps we won't need to fill it once we get over the fear of its existence. L-F

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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by Bluebell » Thu Jul 11, 2019 10:47 pm

It is scary how easy transference can be. I'm doing it in a small way but I am aware of it, it's like our bodies and minds have had enough and are showing us ways to maybe escape our limerence. Trying to trick us into moving on.
But it's not real, it's like a mirage, just a fantasy built on our own stupid built up ideas.
Please take care of yourself, put yourself first above everything and everyone. Don't rush into anything. Take care x
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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by JupiterTaco » Fri Jul 12, 2019 3:05 am

I think to stop the cycle you have to realize that you can give yourself what you keep seeking from others.
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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by Yesnomaybeso » Fri Jul 12, 2019 11:12 pm

Thanks everyone for your supportive replies. This LE is much lower, obviously because it’s somewhat mutual. Yet it brings about another set of problems. It shows how unwilling I am to believing anyone could actually “love” me. I’m hot and cold all the time. I want to hurt them but I also want to help them and show them love. It’s a hot mess and that’s how I’ve always felt in situations like this. I told them before that I looked up the price of flights out of curiosity. Then I felt they weren’t that interested so when they said they loved me I replied... projections of emotions from the past. I can be so damn mean. I just need to heal this.

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Re: I've officially transferred

Post by Yesnomaybeso » Fri Jul 12, 2019 11:16 pm

Also lol never in my life would I believe that L-F would give me such horrible advice.

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