Open forum ... what's on your mind? Want to vent or lament about your Limerent/Love Object? This is the ideal place.
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mamasita wrote: ↑
Fri May 17, 2019 6:37 pm
Like you told me, what you want for HER has to be more than what you want FROM her.
Yes, yes and yes! Though I still need to keep telling myself that. It became like religious chanting every time I'm about to step into class.
And that's why it bothers me so much when I found myself doing the exact opposite.
Too bad that tearing out my amygdala would turn me into an amoeba, LOL
that would be one definite solution to this addiction
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I say if you think she is perfect, then so be it.
The more we tell ourselves that they are not, the more our mind wants to believe it.
Perhaps a figment of my imagination, but I recall one time, seeing LO with his black jacket and stone washed jeans, standing there, and I saw golden sunshine rays coming down and resting on him, and I was like, ahhh, the perfect man. Realistically speaking, more like a man with so many shadows and imperfections, but to my eyes, he represents perfection.
On a transient note, I have seen him in his "looks like shit" depressed mode many times. Brings him down to a human level again.
LE was 22 months...LO catalyst for awakening, in which I chose divorce (after 27 years of marriage)
Very happy and content with my new beginning
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