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Yesnomaybeso
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Projections?

Post by Yesnomaybeso » Wed Mar 13, 2019 11:19 am

I sort of have an idea about projections but wanted to know what it has to do with limerence? So did I just basically make up things about my LO? Assumed that they were this and that when really that’s what I wanted to see? I’m trying to figure out the projections I put on LO because I assume it would teach me about myself but I’m sort of finding it hard to figure it out.

L-F
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Re: Projections?

Post by L-F » Wed Mar 13, 2019 7:13 pm

Yesnomaybeso wrote:
Wed Mar 13, 2019 11:19 am
So did I just basically make up things about my LO? Assumed that they were this and that when really that’s what I wanted to see?
Yes and yes.
Its difficult to comprehend to start with.
Yes LOs (in general) do play a part, HOWEVER, our job is to own OUR projections and disassociate from theirs.

The trick here is to recognize what is ours and what is not.
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MetsFan
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Re: Projections?

Post by MetsFan » Wed Mar 13, 2019 9:34 pm

This is a good article about it:
https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wies ... r-reality/

13. If you were to cease making all effort in the relationship, what would become of it? If the answer is nothing, it means that you aren’t in a relationship, you’re in a hall of mirrors in which you are projecting onto a bystander everything you want in a partner.

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Re: Projections?

Post by marko » Fri Mar 22, 2019 3:55 pm

Just about 100% of what you think about this person and your life with LO is a projection. Oh, and the same for yourself as you see yourself wearing this new self costume. I actually thought I was one of the cool group for a year.

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Re: Projections?

Post by Spinnaker » Fri Mar 22, 2019 5:51 pm

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“We are tied in a single garment of destiny. What affects one directly affects everyone indirectly”.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

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