Loneliness

[Pandora]

Since my limerent bubble burst, I am feeling acutely lonely. While in limerence, it wasn't that I never felt lonely. Waiting for LO to contact me and not have it happen was very lonely. But overall, I spent so much mental energy and time in my fantasies that it was kind of like having an imaginary friend. Now my imaginary friend is gone, and I've come back to a lifelong struggle.

It makes sense that I feel lonely now. I've pushed away god in my pursuing LO. I've mentally and emotionally checked out on my husband. I haven't attempted to make friends, and done the bare minimum to keep up current relationships. I've suddenly 'come back' and realized that my crops are barren.

This too shall pass. I'll reconnect with god, reconnect with DH, begin to cultivate all the good things in life. But I just wanted to vent my feelings a little. Thanks for reading.

[Tremington]

Yup, same boat here. I distanced from everyone and everything over my LO. Wife, kids, everyone. Sad really, but when you are consumed with Limerence it happens.

Im re engaging with everyone slowly, it's hard but NC has really helped. Im trying to be more friendly overall and making new connections.

Hope you feel better!

[Pandora]

Thanks Tremington! It's so jarring to 'come back to earth' now that it's all over.

[Tremington]

You are going to be fine, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. One day at a time, just stick to NC.

[FreeBird]

It makes sense that I feel lonely now. I've pushed away god in my pursuing LO. I've mentally and emotionally checked out on my husband. I haven't attempted to make friends, and done the bare minimum to keep up current relationships. I've suddenly 'come back' and realized that my crops are barren.

This too shall pass. I'll reconnect with god, reconnect with DH, begin to cultivate all the good things in life. But I just wanted to vent my feelings a little. Thanks for reading.

This is a great plan, Pandora. Vent on.You're encouraging me as well. Thanks

[Yesnomaybeso]

Feel the same way. It really does create a false sense of abundance of friendship. I’m feeling lonelier too since going NC. But we all can use this feeling as a catalyst for change and improving our lives.

[Pudding]

Oh yes, been there. It’s taken a while but I am finally coming out of that part. It’s horrible. For me, there was also the factor of losing the highs and the excitement and happiness (even if it was a bad kind of happiness) that the LE brought. I don’t miss being limerent but I miss having something to look forward to like that. I was just saying to my T that nothing else has ever made me feel the euphoria I felt when first falling limerent. It’s a tough one. But you will get through it!

[JupiterTaco]

Thanks for sharing. One thing limerence showed me is that I actually have a lot of passion for a lot of things. If I can be so passionate about another person, I can be passionate about other things, which had been a question in my mind earlier in my adulthood. I thought I was done living so to speak.

[Idiotic]

Thanks for sharing. One thing limerence showed me is that I actually have a lot of passion for a lot of things. If I can be so passionate about another person, I can be passionate about other things, which had been a question in my mind earlier in my adulthood. I thought I was done living so to speak.

Youre Right J , if i even put half my limerent energy into other things i can get a lot of things done. And when i was limerent i did too, but i consciously remind myself when i feel im not capable of even simple things, that that magical capacity didnt come out of nowhere.
Having said that , i still work better when i 'work for someone'(someone i project my stuff onto), working on trying to work for me. Failing constantly but trying