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Ashamed and exhausted

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Ashamed and exhausted

Post by jerimouse »

Hi, my name is Jeri. I just Googled "limerence support" and opened this page. It's such a relief to find other people like me!

I've been struggling with limerence ever since I can remember. I fixate on older women, usually teachers or other authority figures/role models. It makes me feel ashamed because it always gets to be obsessive. I can't focus on anything because I'm constantly daydreaming about my LO, looking through her Facebook, or both. It takes up an insane amount of my time.

Last year I had some kind of delusional episode that ended with me confessing my feelings to my current LO as well as other embarrassing and inexplicable things. It really hurts to look back and realize that I probably ruined a friendship with a really supportive mother figure and can't take back what was said. I don't quite understand what it is that I feel or what I want from her, although I'm sure this whole issue has a lot to do with my painful relationship with my mother.

I just feel horrible about myself because of this problem, and I can't seem to fix it no matter how hard I try. I wish I were normal!!

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Post by David »

Welcome Jeri and good you found this place. You are far from alone!.
Do you want help with limerence from the founder of this site?
I'm a qualified counsellor, psychotherapist, medical practitioner and leadership coach.
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