ReeledIn wrote: ↑
Sun Jan 13, 2019 1:32 am
Ha! You guys cracked me up!!! MrSpock... glad we both learned that lesson relatively unscathed.
I just wrote a journal entry about the great Instagram fuck-up in my journal... .I think it may have helped me turn a corner! (Link to my post below)
It seems we can all agree that social media is the devil.
On that note, my last THREE (3) LOs have all pursued me on Facebook. That's how we met. Ugh! Lesson learned: DON'T respond to random messages. Ever, ever, ever. This is a huge victory for me.
But back to the shame.
Sending pictures in various states of undress. I am literally blushing as I type this and my stomach flips when I think about it. I had never done that before until artist/creep LO badgered the living daylights out of me and begged me for them. It is all he cares about and I finally stopped when I started having a light bulb moment about being used. Then the new/young LO said hello and I started sending them to him!
It's over though. I can honestly say I will never do that again.
Reeled, I read your journal entry and found it encouraging. Oddly, I have remained "friends" online with the LOs I just mentioned but don't really interact with them anymore. Young LO has broadcast his new GF and their instant "love at first sight" all over the place, and rather than feeling ill about it, I just smile and shake my head. Maybe he's found his miracle soulmate, but it doesn't matter. It all screams dysfunction.
I think working through the shame is a big part of it...especially for some of us who are harboring a childhood shame or guilt of some kind.