Perfectly said, Pandora.Pandora wrote: ↑Fri Sep 14, 2018 9:01 pmThat sounds like pure hell, the attention bombing followed by the silence. The last time that happened to me I was on tenderhooks waiting for my LO to contact me again. I was so wrapped up in it, and I started getting really angry and resentful that he wasn't contacting me. I realized that, subconsciously, I thought he owed me his time and attention because I was giving so much of myself to obsessing over him. I thought 'Wait, that isn't fair. He didn't ask you to obsess over him. He doesn't owe you jack shit.' I'd like to say that it fixed my limerent brain, instead I just felt more ashamed of my fixation.
Anyway, it's a long winded way of saying I know exactly how your brain is spinning! I wish there was an easy fix for it. Until we discover that, have some hugs and empathy
I have been there too, and it IS really hard. Try to get other support (friends, family) and to do something fun.