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Endgame
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Finding Purpose

Post by Endgame » Tue Mar 27, 2018 8:38 am

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L-F
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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by L-F » Tue Mar 27, 2018 10:08 am

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"What we all want, really, is to be loved.
That craving drives our worst behavior." Jodi Picoult
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JohnDeux
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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by JohnDeux » Tue Mar 27, 2018 6:05 pm

Endgame wrote:
Tue Mar 27, 2018 8:38 am
Would I rather have 5 years packed with extreme experiences, ticking off my bucket list and feeling truly alive...or 70 more years in this zombie state??? It's a far harder question for me to answer than it should be.
Answer: yes.

B-)

I don't see that this is an easy question to answer for anyone, especially those who grew up with questionable role models for living a satisfying life. Just speaking for my own case, I had parents I did not want to emulate who left me for long hours with books and TV, both mediums more than happy to present (falsely) to you what you "need to be happy". The story from both mediums, to which my own real-life influences clung as well, was the heroic/extreme-living bucket list. It's been hard to shed a lot of that skin that was produced from that indoctrination, but more I move away from that quest for "ein Heldenleben", the better I feel on a daily basis. Just one view and hope others continue to offer what worked for them.....
"Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain...."~ The Wizard of Oz

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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by Sunflower » Tue Mar 27, 2018 6:18 pm

So where I am at right now too Endgame. I suspect had I not had children, I would have followed the extreme route but having children definitely anchored me. So now they will both be at uni soon, what now......

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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by Spinnaker » Tue Mar 27, 2018 6:28 pm

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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by Idiotic » Wed Mar 28, 2018 7:01 am

Endgame wrote:
Tue Mar 27, 2018 8:38 am
It's the fact that I crave - and always have craved - 'more' from my life and I see that limerence is a side effect of that.

Has anyone seen the film Nymphomania? If not, it isn't as pornographic as it sounds, by any means. It's quite interesting actually. There's a quote towards the start about how the main character 'demands more from the sunset, deeper colours and longer lasting...and she uses that somehow as explanation, if not justification, for her escalating sexual acting out throughout the film. Amongst a build up of environmental influences over time. I've never identified quite so much with a film character.
Its always there in your posts , in the background, what you lay here. I relate to it on a very fundamental level. Eyes always on the horizon... Its like demanding death, from beauty , from sensation, from connection, i crave so many mini deaths, but i wonder if i do die(sometimes i do).
I am very anxious too, almost crippling and i have an immense desire for courage, i feel envious and inspired at the same time when i see someone who acts courageously. Its a constant tension , i wont lay off and accept my cowardice , and i wont take one step further and be a 'hero'.
I keep dancing on my own - Robyn

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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by Endgame » Wed Mar 28, 2018 8:01 am

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L-F
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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by L-F » Wed Mar 28, 2018 10:21 am

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"What we all want, really, is to be loved.
That craving drives our worst behavior." Jodi Picoult
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Endgame
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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by Endgame » Wed Mar 28, 2018 10:41 am

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Re: Finding Purpose

Post by Idiotic » Wed Mar 28, 2018 11:27 am

Endgame wrote:
Wed Mar 28, 2018 10:41 am
it would be seen as over intensity and rejected...and this is a real issue I've had before.
But would you even want someone who did not want you with your intensity?
I keep dancing on my own - Robyn

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