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And if you get mad at me for something I didn't do, or did with a justification, is WAR.
With my kids I snap if they disobey. I'm much, much better now, but when they were small (say 5 or 6), I used to go as far as pulling their hair if they got in a tantrum for resisting to do as I told. It doesn't help that they totally ignore my wife and each time she needs them to do something, she sends them to me. She has zero authority and I need to fight down the Sargent within me (which is a direct reflection of my sort-of father)
Something that got me into almost every fight with my wife, is that if you get into an argument with me, there are only two possible outcomes: either I win, or you loose
It took me many years of work to learn that is better to be right than happy... wait! I said that backwards! OK, "better to be happy than right"
I'm quite awkwardly social: I love being with people... for a while. I'm mostly alone (in fact I work home alone), and as far as I'm alone most of the day, I can and really do enjoy being with other people, but only if it is not for too long. For instance, every Friday night I go play volleyball and it is the interaction with the others I love the most, in fact the very reason for doing it... but, when the class is over, I got and have dinner on my own on a restaurant nearby, and I would totally hate if any of them would want to join me. In fact if anyone would ask me I would say no and go eat at home.
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High tolerance for extreme messiness
craving for attention but difficulty asking for it
Need to look good when in public or else depressed (a lot of self worth comes from appearance)
Perfectionist in school/work/appearance
being occasionally dramatic/hyper/seductive to get male attention
Interrupting people and needing to be center of attention sometimes
Avoiding, ghosting people other times
Sometimes Shutting down emotionally when others share their problems with me b/c I feel too overwhelmed with my own pain (very selfish I know!)
Self-harmed in high school to get attention
Teacher's pet syndrome
stealing from friends and shoplifting small things without guilt
Lying to avoid punishment, confrontation
Basically I'm a monster!
My LO is a 54 year old male (married w/ kids).
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I'm no expert, but have learnt enough to know where to look for answers.
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