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LC providing relief
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LC providing relief
One tangible benefit to being in Covid-19 quarantine has been LC (low contact) with my LO. The cycle of intense ups and downs has been obscured, maybe broken, hopefully. I hope I can hold onto the perspective that she is just a normal woman that is NOT available, and that being acquaintances or friends as we are, will not progress into more. At this level my Limerence is "manageable", and not seeming like a "psychiatric emergency" as my HMO's telephone directory would say. I would like at some point to speak to a counselor about a whole host of issues, but the sense of urgency has lessened.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
Re: LC providing relief
It's good that quarantine's forced LC is giving you some relief... maybe you can even start to go lower and lower contact until it's NC?
I too would like to find a good counselor/therapist... I made two calls yesterday but they haven't called back yet and I need to reach out to more. I know that I have some issues to work on and some healing to do.
I too would like to find a good counselor/therapist... I made two calls yesterday but they haven't called back yet and I need to reach out to more. I know that I have some issues to work on and some healing to do.
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Re: LC providing relief
I'm glad to hear it's working for you, others have said similar things. I think LC makes mine worse when I do have contact, it sucks. I really wish for NC. Is LC different for you and how?
"Tell me...how many times did you have sex with him?" Griselda, Cocaine Godmother
"Six, why?" Affair partner
"Because that's how many times I'm going to shoot you," Griselda
"Six, why?" Affair partner
"Because that's how many times I'm going to shoot you," Griselda
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Re: LC providing relief
Well NC for me means I'll never ever see her again, and that sends me spiraling straight into a bad funk. LC is where- "yeah, I'll probably see her here or there someday, and I'm comfortable with that.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
Re: LC providing relief
Good for you! I always look at elderly men limerent for younger women and wonder "when the fuck are they going to wake up??? Grow up even???"
Its hard! Getting over our ego is difficult, just ask David
But, it's all part of growing up. Yay to those who move beyond being ego-stroked. I wish my father would. At 90 he still accuses my mother (his full time carer and exwife) about going out to be ego-stroked just because he can't (so he projects it on to her). Please don't be like like him. He's got issues!
Its hard! Getting over our ego is difficult, just ask David
But, it's all part of growing up. Yay to those who move beyond being ego-stroked. I wish my father would. At 90 he still accuses my mother (his full time carer and exwife) about going out to be ego-stroked just because he can't (so he projects it on to her). Please don't be like like him. He's got issues!
"And in the end, we were all just humans…Drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness." ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
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Re: LC providing relief
The pandemic is providing relief for me too with the forced LC. Things were way more intense in person. And time with LO, especially alone, had been increasing. I’m glad I was forced out of my happy place. I’m taking better care of myself and my family, performing better at work (remotely), and being more realistic that even though he might be a “work spouse”, he will never be my real husband.
But with the relief also comes the pain. March/April was agony.
But with the relief also comes the pain. March/April was agony.
40 something, married with kids
LO is a married with kids co-worker
LO is a married with kids co-worker
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Re: LC providing relief
As a man I do understand that dynamic. Men are mentally hardwired to pursue procreation, and that often means attraction to younger women. My LO is 59, neither she nor I have any desire to run off together and have babies. I'm content to just be "friends". I recognize my feelings for her as being excessive, and the product of an ongoing condition for which I continue to cope with.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
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Re: LC providing relief
Forgive me, I just wanted to double check, is this the same person you're talking about as when you first signed up?
"Tell me...how many times did you have sex with him?" Griselda, Cocaine Godmother
"Six, why?" Affair partner
"Because that's how many times I'm going to shoot you," Griselda
"Six, why?" Affair partner
"Because that's how many times I'm going to shoot you," Griselda
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Re: LC providing relief
The LO of my present ongoing LE? Yes.JupiterTaco wrote: ↑Sat Jul 04, 2020 2:50 am Forgive me, I just wanted to double check, is this the same person you're talking about as when you first signed up?
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
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Re: LC providing relief
Do you think you can be friends with her without the feelings? And even if so, are you 100% sure she won't use the "friend" situation to manipulate your feelings?peter.rabbit wrote: ↑Fri Jul 03, 2020 4:12 amAs a man I do understand that dynamic. Men are mentally hardwired to pursue procreation, and that often means attraction to younger women. My LO is 59, neither she nor I have any desire to run off together and have babies. I'm content to just be "friends". I recognize my feelings for her as being excessive, and the product of an ongoing condition for which I continue to cope with.
"Tell me...how many times did you have sex with him?" Griselda, Cocaine Godmother
"Six, why?" Affair partner
"Because that's how many times I'm going to shoot you," Griselda
"Six, why?" Affair partner
"Because that's how many times I'm going to shoot you," Griselda
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