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I asked her how she envisioned the next 20 years and beyond. It led to a honest conversation about the empty nest that we will have in the next few years.I told her how I wanted to work in some capacity for as long as I can and that I want to travel more frequently. I suggested to her that we try to find some common hobbies and she agreed to try playing golf. She is going through a mid-life crisis of sorts. She never had the opportunity to set goals and work towards them, we then got married and a few years later she was in the role of mother which has been very stressful for her. She has severe anxiety and I don't think she could have handled a full time job and being MOM.
Since the kids rely on us less as they get older, I think DW may have a hard time adjusting to it. Made it clear to her that I am planning on living as fully as I can and that I would love to do things together and grow as humans and a couple, but I can't do it for her. I explained that I will be ever supportive of any endeavor she wishes to embark on. I just hope that she finds something more interesting than watching silly youtube videos all day.
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Curiously, upon reading your post I was reminded that my own LE started close to our 15th anniversary. Suddenly it struck me that this milestone might have been a trigger for it. A marriage wit h some miles on it does evolve and present ever changing dynamics, guess I found myself at a crossroads of sorts.
Will take your example and talk with hubby as you and your wife did, planning for the future as well as reflecting on the past. THanks Windy, for the inspiration, and congrats again!
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