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Limerence IMO is a blessing, to help the LS grow up and take responsibility for life altering choices.
I'm no expert, but have learnt enough to know where to look for answers.
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Certainly on some level I would be guilty of this. But a discussion of this nature hinges on the word "selfishly", because where does "lack of awareness" end and "selfishness" begin? From the limited MC that we've engaged in, the take home seemed from the counselor seemed to be that we both have selfish elements that we are unwilling to part with. For whatever reason, it's just my nature to apply myself to self-discovery in a deliberate way, whereas SO goes about her life and it falls into place for her from oblique trajectories.L-F wrote: ↑Thu Oct 19, 2017 9:06 pmImagine being pair-bonded to someone who could never give fully? And you can never give fully when you don't know what makes you tick. Quite a selfish thing remaining married when you think about it. But still, I'm all for understanding ourselves better whilst pair bonded and allowing SO the same dignity and space to grow. And this is where I see married partners growing together in a deeply profound way... so long as the LS doesn't remain selfishly locked in to their own misery.
But also to say, in my walks of life, I know of extremely few,.....if any, actually.....couples who are bonded through giving fully to each other in a fully aware manner. But that could also be just the outcome of being in circles where such people are more commonly found.
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