WM and Sara,WishMagick wrote: ↑Mon Jun 29, 2020 6:08 pmThat's what has happened to me as well.
I don't get dopamine hits from the bits of attention my LO gives me anymore.
There was a time when a FB "like" or a FB story view would give me an instant high that would last a couple of days (and I would be smiling so big and just in a good mood) and if he ever said any word to me I would get a rush of tingles in my whole body feel like I just did a line of cocaine (I am imagining, I have never taken cocaine).
Now when he gives me attention on FB, I almost feel a sense of dread. And if it's not a slightly negative emotion, it's completely neutral. His name stands out in the list, but, it's like, "Oh", instead of pure joy.
And when he spoke to me last, I was annoyed. Not enthralled.
I don't have anything against him, I don't hate him, he's fine, but I think I am finally getting tired of my mental state.
This might be happening to you too, Sara!
That's good. Getting tired is good. It's played out now and we are ready to be free...
Until the next LO!
Hahahha!
Did you do anything specific to desensitize yourself to the dopamine hits?
It’s been two years and I’m still smitten. I tried to keep my distance at work, but he would come find me to “catch up”. I’m the person who initiates most online contact, so communication has been out of balance during the pandemic towards me appearing to chase him. I play a game with myself how many days I can go NC, because he is usually NC also. I don’t think he’s purposely evading me, but I don’t know. I hate being the one who has to figure out the boundaries and what’s appropriate. And figure out what won’t scare him. Haha!
In person, I tried to keep it cool, but then went in the opposite direction and tried to be around him frequently, hoping it would desensitize me. Neither of those have worked. I can still get a huge buzz just by looking at a picture or an old message.