BECOME A MEMBER AND EMBRACE EXCLUSIVE ACCESS
Unlock exclusive features and connect with like-minded individuals by upgrading to our premium membership.
As a member, you'll gain access to our members-only forums, where you can:
Engage in meaningful discussions: Read, create, and search all threads and posts, fostering a vibrant community of like-minded individuals.
Establish deeper connections: Utilize our private messaging system to connect with other members on a personal level, fostering meaningful relationships.
Enjoy these benefits and more for just $2.99 per month, payable securely via PayPal.
Membership is flexible, allowing you to cancel anytime without any hassle.
Sign up today and embark on a journey of personal growth and connection. Join our community of passionate individuals and unlock a world of possibilities.

Click https://limerence.net/membership-accoun ... p-checkout

Why do you like your LO?

A place for those new to this site. The more experienced users of this site tend to frequent the members only section more.
Post Reply
peter.rabbit
Posts: 450
Joined: Wed Jul 24, 2019 12:27 am
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by peter.rabbit »

LovesickRandy wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 3:21 am DON'T DISCLOSE!!!!!! I would MUCH have her back faking it and laughing with her than knowing she hates me!
I know that being rejected / hated by our LO is a Limerent's worst nightmare, but I wonder: how could anyone hate a person who just confessed to having feelings for them? I have never experienced someone professing their love for me, seems like it would be flattering at least. I can see how it could end up being a 'burdon' to the recipient.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
LovesickRandy
Posts: 43
Joined: Fri Feb 07, 2020 12:26 am
Gender:
Age: 61
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by LovesickRandy »

peter.rabbit wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 5:27 am
LovesickRandy wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 3:21 am DON'T DISCLOSE!!!!!! I would MUCH rather have her back faking my emotions and laughing with her rather than knowing she hates me!
I know that being rejected / hated by our LO is a Limerent's worst nightmare, but I wonder: how could anyone hate a person who just confessed to having feelings for them? I have never experienced someone professing their love for me, seems like it would be flattering at least. I can see how it could end up being a 'burdon' to the recipient.
I think she thinks I was trying to get her to go to have sex with me - which I wasn't. I think she thinks I was completely in control of my actions. Under that context, I don't blame her. Under that context it's creepy that a Boss would have a thing for a 20 year younger employee.
Married - 57 yrs old
LO is single - 37 yrs old - works for me
Raven
Posts: 10
Joined: Mon Mar 09, 2020 5:41 pm
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by Raven »

Nothing, really.

I have just realised that I felt like I was in love with someone I haven't seen in 21 years and don't even know. I didn't know there was a term for this condition.

I don't know anything about him that I would like. I thought he was good looking and funny back then.
MrSpock
Posts: 1027
Joined: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:39 pm
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
Gender:
Age: 53
Argentina

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by MrSpock »

peter.rabbit wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 5:27 am
LovesickRandy wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 3:21 am DON'T DISCLOSE!!!!!! I would MUCH have her back faking it and laughing with her than knowing she hates me!
I know that being rejected / hated by our LO is a Limerent's worst nightmare
I disclosed about a year ago, and she totally hated me ever since.

Even last night I was kissing everyone "hi" (the way we greet here in Argentina) and she was facing the wall to avoid me. She does stuff like that all the time. Plus I can see in her face how upset she is that I'm there.

It terms of how it feels... is like having your teeth pulled out without any anesthetic!

I've been a bit sad since last night (not too sad, just a little, but enough to noticed it).

However...

I'm not sure if I would call this a Limerent's worst nightmare. At the very least, this "treatment" keeps any fantasy away and if anything, reinforces the fact that we have zero relationship, which is the closest to NC I can be, considering that I have to share a TKD class two times a week.

Hence the teeth analogy.. it hurts, and keeps hurting as I found out last night, but I know it's going to be for the best in the end.

peter.rabbit wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 5:27 am I wonder: how could anyone hate a person who just confessed to having feelings for them? I have never experienced someone professing their love for me, seems like it would be flattering at least. I can see how it could end up being a 'burdon' to the recipient.
Me too. I wrote about just this on another post recently. I don't get it. I HAD been on the recipient's side lots of times and I never did this to anyone.

Having said that.. I can only assume it has to do with the fact that she's 23 (and single) and I'm 49 (and married).
User avatar
WishMagick
Posts: 827
Joined: Fri Dec 13, 2019 8:00 pm
Location: Wonderland
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by WishMagick »

MrSpock wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 8:49 pm I can only assume it has to do with the fact that she's 23 (and single) and I'm 49 (and married).
A "normal" person wouldn't be angry at that. Or even angry if it were a boss / employee situation. Being angry or feeling actual hatred for someone who confessed loving-type feelings for you is NOT a normal reaction. People who react this way have loads and loads of issues.

It's a good thing these people don't reciprocate! You'd want to stay miles away from someone who takes a tender confession from someone in this way.
I'm now limerence free! Mindfulness & Traditional spiritualism was my "cure".
"Being spiritual has nothing to do with what you believe and everything to do with your state of consciousness."
peter.rabbit
Posts: 450
Joined: Wed Jul 24, 2019 12:27 am
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by peter.rabbit »

WishMagick wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 8:59 pm Being angry or feeling actual hatred for someone who confessed loving-type feelings for you is NOT a normal reaction. People who react this way have loads and loads of issues.

It's a good thing these people don't reciprocate! You'd want to stay miles away from someone who takes a tender confession from someone in this way.
...I suppose that for the LS it would be the wake-up call to nullify the LE, granting much sought after peace.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
User avatar
WishMagick
Posts: 827
Joined: Fri Dec 13, 2019 8:00 pm
Location: Wonderland
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by WishMagick »

peter.rabbit wrote: Wed Mar 11, 2020 2:56 am
WishMagick wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 8:59 pm Being angry or feeling actual hatred for someone who confessed loving-type feelings for you is NOT a normal reaction. People who react this way have loads and loads of issues.

It's a good thing these people don't reciprocate! You'd want to stay miles away from someone who takes a tender confession from someone in this way.
...I suppose that for the LS it would be the wake-up call to nullify the LE, granting much sought after peace.
Absolutely.
I'm now limerence free! Mindfulness & Traditional spiritualism was my "cure".
"Being spiritual has nothing to do with what you believe and everything to do with your state of consciousness."
peter.rabbit
Posts: 450
Joined: Wed Jul 24, 2019 12:27 am
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by peter.rabbit »

My LE has been emotionally exhausting, and has gone pole to pole(kind of "bi-polar"), keeping me off balance, sometimes to the point where I am convinced that I could pull-off disclosure, with positive results. No doubt- disclosure would not gain what I would hope, but I really can't picture her being angry or cold hearted. Coming up of being involuntarily LC, I'm not pining for her, this because I'm getting validation and gaining feeling of self worth from some REAL friendships. Much better than fantasy. I'll see her from time to time, and will always have a special place in my heart for her...
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein
L-F
Posts: 4500
Joined: Fri Sep 29, 2017 9:55 am
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by L-F »

WishMagick wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 8:59 pm
MrSpock wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2020 8:49 pm I can only assume it has to do with the fact that she's 23 (and single) and I'm 49 (and married).
A "normal" person wouldn't be angry at that. Or even angry if it were a boss / employee situation. Being angry or feeling actual hatred for someone who confessed loving-type feelings for you is NOT a normal reaction. People who react this way have loads and loads of issues.

It's a good thing these people don't reciprocate! You'd want to stay miles away from someone who takes a tender confession from someone in this way.
Erm............... I'd be bloody minded if my stalker, oogler, googler confessed to me. I'd be scared. Creeped out. And angry as hell. I would feel raped of my boundaries I would feel unsafe and a little traumatized tbh.

So yeah. I empathize with the young lady who I think was younger than 23 when this all started.

If someone oggled me, I probably wouldn't understand it UNTIL they confessed, then all the a-ha moments and red flags would come crashing down.

Tbh, I'd be angry that my 'nice friendly friend' whom I felt I could rely upon, felt safe with, admired and looked up to turned into a monster. I'd feel raped of friend. I'd feel grief and loss. I'd feel confused. I'd feel somehow it was all my fault. I'd feel manipulated and used.

I certainly wouldn't be happy and pretend all is well.
"And in the end, we were all just humans…Drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness." ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
L-F
Posts: 4500
Joined: Fri Sep 29, 2017 9:55 am
United States of America

Re: Why do you like your LO?

Post by L-F »

peter.rabbit wrote: Wed Mar 11, 2020 4:29 am sometimes to the point where I am convinced that I could pull-off disclosure, with positive results.
If you did pull it off, as you have done in the past, would this make her your 4th LO-wife?
"And in the end, we were all just humans…Drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness." ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
Post Reply

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 13 guests