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A question for the boys

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A question for the boys

Post by L-F » Sat Mar 03, 2018 7:13 pm

This is based on observations and from the stories I've heard... why do men in particular not pay attention to foreplay? I'm pretty sure we all know that it takes women a lot longer to warm up. Thus the importance of it.
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Re: A question for the boys

Post by Maddie » Sat Mar 03, 2018 7:22 pm

L-F, I am patiently waiting on an answer to this one now! Good question....
Cause me and DH need some help in this. Now that we have 2 toddlers, things have become lackluster! Some of that is me....I have been uninterested for a while, but I keep trying! Funny I had no lack of interest with LO. I am feeling guilty, but I know I have some maturing to do in this marital relationship. He is a great husband and father.
Foreplay/sensuality could sure help though!
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Re: A question for the boys

Post by Maddie » Sat Mar 03, 2018 7:23 pm

Oh crap .that question was for the boys. But I just had to comment.
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Re: A question for the boys

Post by Spinnaker » Sat Mar 03, 2018 7:37 pm

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Re: A question for the boys

Post by L-F » Sat Mar 03, 2018 8:07 pm

Spinnaker wrote:
Sat Mar 03, 2018 7:37 pm
I think we need to speak up more because chances are your man will do what you ask if that means getting laid.
Umm... not if it takes much effort =))

Women who make love to women, that I've heard from, don't need to ask, they tend to enjoy the fact it takes a long time. Plenty of kissing and caressing.

I've seen some male posters on here mention their hidden resentment towards their partners for putting on weight, and other things. I bet the resentment is equal if not more, for those who wish their DH would take time in this area.
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Re: A question for the boys

Post by Havb » Sat Mar 03, 2018 8:33 pm

L-F wrote:
Sat Mar 03, 2018 8:07 pm
I've seen some male posters on here mention their hidden resentment towards their partners for putting on weight, and other things. I bet the resentment is equal if not more, for those who wish their DH would take time in this area.
Exactly! :-bd
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Re: A question for the boys

Post by TheNewGuy » Sat Mar 03, 2018 9:13 pm

I tend to spend a lot more time In foreplay. I am not into McFucking aka quick service. It should build into a crescendo.
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Re: A question for the boys

Post by CrushedSO » Sat Mar 03, 2018 9:24 pm

I take my time, until I can’t hold off any longer. Then it’s go time

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Re: A question for the boys

Post by JohnDeux » Sat Mar 03, 2018 9:54 pm

Guess our situation, while it lasted, was different. My wife initially seemed to like longer bouts of mutual foreplay. Later got bored with it. I find the 'wham-bam' approach to be utterly boring and would prefer using my right foot for self-stimulation, were I still so limber. But seriously, SO preferred later just to get it over with and move on to the sleep portion of the evening. I took that as my cue to move to a different bedroom some decades ago. So I guess I'm as baffled as you are about the jammin' johnsons.....what's the rush? I'm convinced, however, by numerous similar stories by other friends that, just like those who do or don't become limerent, the wiring is all over the map for these things.
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Re: A question for the boys

Post by Endgame » Sat Mar 03, 2018 10:26 pm

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