No never. Although, there was lots of blame shifting in my FOO. Lots of fighting and yelling also. I often felt that my opinion didn't matter and when I tried to stop an argument from escalating, I ended up in the middle, having to choose a side.Limerentfriend wrote: ↑Fri Mar 31, 2017 9:47 amSo if you blame your LO for not stopping... perhaps seek professional help in this area. What you are really wanting is someone to parent you. You are an Adult, never forget that!
Were you raped too? Did you ever find yourself in a position where you wished you could have said STOP? Just wondering
This happened a lot -- mom didn't drive, only dad, so if we were going somewhere new, dad, being awful with directions, would make a wrong turn and end up getting lost. Mom would start yelling and we never got to our destination because everyone was too upset and mom would say to dad "you are too stupid to drive". So we went home and I was always disappointed that we didn't get there.
I tried to be helpful -- ask for directions or just backtrack -- but didn't matter, would just get yelled at also.
So yes, many times, wanted to say just stop it.
My FOO was even more fucked up than I realized.