JohnDeux wrote: ↑Thu Jul 05, 2018 1:39 pm
But yes,....getting the 'last word' sticks to me like
toilet paper on my shoe. Maybe I should switch to clogs or sandals??.....
I'll tell you if I ever find out
I've learned the very, very hard way how much David is right. Fighting over a triviality just to prove we were right, for almost two decades! how childish. It helps to know that the distinction between child and adult is totally made up... in reality we just continually, progressively grow, and in different fronts each at its own peace.
For example, before I got married, I never ever argued with anyone, but because I didn't give a damn what they thought. By time it did matter what someone else thought, for the very first time, it was uncharted territory every inch of the way. Fortunately, we eventually figured out that we better be happy than right. At least in principle. We still get carried away more often that not, but unlike before, we do stop when we remember how stupid it is to fight over being right.
As a side note, but to the point, since like forever until a couple of years ago, I wanted to write down a book with the believes of my church, because, oddly enough, there isn't one yet. But I desisted when I realized that my church believes X, and I do too, but the church next door believes Y, and they do to; and the one around the corner believes Z. So, what is the point in writing down X if is just something to be personally taken or discarded? After spending a lot of time reading about the so-called "theories of truth", I concluded that is quite a mess. Is not that "2+2" can be anything and not just 4, is that we can only tell in trivial, straight forward cases like Algebra. When it comes to real world, practical propositions, only God knows, and we don't because at the end of the day, we can't really prove anything (other than synthetic propositions like in math or language). So, isn't the very idea of being right or wrong a pointless quest if we just can't ever tell? we can all be "brains in a vat" (or in the matrix) for all we know, so what's the utility of the truth?
Easier said than done of course. I still want to have the last word, but it helps to know that is as futile as still wanting LO.