Yes that's one thing that gives me faith in humanity, that there is kindness out there. Speaking of, I found his (Kenny's) prom date. She's one of the six or so people out of his whole friend list that have a remembrance photo of him on their main FB pictures right now. I suppose people who are having a harder time dealing with this maybe don't post any for that reason but it does portray the feeling of how alone he must've felt.JohnDeux wrote: ↑Wed Mar 29, 2017 5:16 pmIt drives home the importance, psychologically, of how a child comes to identify with and introject "the aggressor". That internalized aggressor generally directs hostility and feelings of worthlessness inward and that child grows up with a sense self-blame and 'badness'. Alternatively, it can become directed outward in often historically tragic ways. When Adolf Hitler was a boy getting beaten by his father, often while his mother stayed outside the bedroom door and did not intervene, he decided finally to simply turn off his feelings: "The Führer once told his secretary that during one of the regular beatings given him by his father he was able to stop crying, to feel nothing, and even to count the thirty-two blows he received."--http://www.naturalchild.org/alice_mille ... itler.htmlJupiterTaco wrote: ↑Wed Mar 29, 2017 7:13 am How the heck is a malnourished little kid actually going to defend themselves against two or more adults, let alone run away and actually get away?? Just blows my mind but these are the types of things that go through victims’ minds. It’s not enough that the people who should’ve been protecting them were abusing them instead and putting them at risk. They have to do it to themselves too.
We often think "How could we (humans) have evolved such terrible mental mechanism that we would repeat our own past abuse?". But we forget the flip-side: When we are treated well, we automatically incorporate that treatment as well and shine that benevolence outward often without even thinking.
Thanks for sharing that about Hitler, I didn't know about that, but it doesn't surprise me. Apparently many of the people who commit violent crimes have life histories like that. Which brings me back to the Jeanette Maples case again. Reading about it, it's the kind of case that would make a normal human being hate Jeanette's mother, Angela McAnulty. But researching into her past, she grew up almost the same way. Her abusive father singled her oldest brother out for the worst abuse when they were growing up (he testified at her trial).
Add to that, her mother was brutally murdered when she was five and her murder was never solved. Her and her mother were really close. Her father was always considered a suspect but it was never solved and he got his kids back and they had to grow up with him. (Angela's mother had left him and taken her kids to a hotel right before she was murdered).