Addicted to punishment or limerence?

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Peanut
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Re: Addicted to punishment or limerence?

Post by Peanut » Sun Jan 14, 2018 8:05 am

Ahh that makes sense. Alcoholics like limerents want to remain in lala land. Their addiction is stronger than their desire to change. Thanks everyone!

JohnDeux
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Re: Addicted to punishment or limerence?

Post by JohnDeux » Sun Jan 14, 2018 2:45 pm

Peanut wrote:
Sun Jan 14, 2018 8:05 am
Ahh that makes sense. Alcoholics like limerents want to remain in lala land. Their addiction is stronger than their desire to change. Thanks everyone!
Just felt an urge to add to this because I would not use the phrase "...*want* to remain in lala land". If you ever get a chance to read some of Gabor Mate's work on addiction, for me it was a lightbulb moment: "Yes, that makes sense....addicts want to cover up pain". And in addition to chemical or other manner of dependency that gets started through the process, it becomes the easiest, most reliable way to cover that pain, even if a greater way of dealing with that pain exists beyond the addiction. While the pain still exists....and is not being addressed....the addiction itself is the "go to" way to keep that pain at bay. So in that way, it's less than a "want" and more of a default circuit for soothing pain and confusion.
"Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain...."~ The Wizard of Oz

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