I tried to find things on the net to read about that, as I think it represents a big part of my limerence problem.David wrote:If we want to deal with our limerence, we need to deal with their early life attachment wounds. The limerence is only a symptom. Limerence and romantic love is a reenactment of the Parental Rescue Fantasy (PRF).
I have been severely limerent for three years, but before that, I had numerous crushes over random guys, that I used just to distract me from my unsatisfying life.
I always had rescue fantasies about this crushes : I didn't want them to rescue me, (apparently), it was just the other way around.
I wanted to rescue them, to comfort them.
As I learned more about psychoanalysis and psychology, I finally understood that it was probably just an inversion, and it was the desire that someone comfort me and rescue me which was expressed this way.
But it seems I'm not able to express this directly in my fantasies : it's always the other way around. Which is totaly unrealistic, as I'm not the kind of girl who is eager to help others, not the least. (that's probably why I finally realized it really had to be an inversion)
So LO and all these crushes before represent just the part of me which crave to be saved.
As I haven't found much informations about the "rescue fantasy" yet, and as I still fail to understand exactly what it is about, I was just wondering if other people were interested in this part of the problem.