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Do you need a man or woman in your life?

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Do you feel you would not manage without someone to share your life with?

Yes
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No
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Do you need a man or woman in your life?

Post by David » Sun Jun 03, 2018 6:32 am

Im surprised how many men I work with when I ask them if they need a women in their lives, they say yes. I too was in that camp when i first entered therapy. i no longer hold that belief

I asked SO last night if she needs a man in her life - hell no she said - she worked through all that nonsense when she was limerent as a teenager. she also felt limerence is normal and if we grew up in a healthy family we would go through this puppy love as a teenager.
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Re: Do you need a man or woman in your life?

Post by Ivanhoe » Sun Jun 03, 2018 7:09 am

I don’t know David, I’m working on the answer to that question for myself at levels so deep I feel like I may drown.

One problem for me at least, the message in my head says that a solid relationship with a woman is the sine qua non of health, both mental and spiritual.

In addition, I really like sex and close affection.

On the other hand, my late best friend said all but about 2% of women are crazy. And since my mother was a narc and must have taught me to both idealize and fear women, I am at a loss to answer.
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Re: Do you need a man or woman in your life?

Post by Ivanhoe » Sun Jun 03, 2018 7:10 am

=)) was supposed to accompany the above.
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Re: Do you need a man or woman in your life?

Post by L-F » Sun Jun 03, 2018 8:29 am

Absolutely not! No NEED for either. But the desire for both remains :D
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Re: Do you need a man or woman in your life?

Post by TheMoon » Sun Jun 03, 2018 8:40 am

L-F wrote:
Sun Jun 03, 2018 8:29 am
Absolutely not! No NEED for either. But the desire for both remains :D
Yes - that is absolutely it.

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