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Did No contact with LO help You?

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Did No contact help you get over your LO?

Yes, I completed got over my LO after sometime.
2
8%
No, my feelings for my LO are still the same.
2
8%
Things got better but I still think about my LO.
21
84%
 
Total votes: 25

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Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by confusedGirl3 » Tue Nov 14, 2017 10:24 pm

I am wondering if no contact with LO is helping people.

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by Lostinlove » Tue Nov 14, 2017 11:54 pm

Not at all for me. It’s been a few months now...aboit a half a year and it has made no difference at all. I’m still miserable, depressed, and anxious. It’s just try to get from one day to the next. 😞👎😡

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by JupiterTaco » Wed Nov 15, 2017 1:56 am

Lostinlove wrote:
Tue Nov 14, 2017 11:54 pm
Not at all for me. It’s been a few months now...aboit a half a year and it has made no difference at all. I’m still miserable, depressed, and anxious. It’s just try to get from one day to the next. 😞👎😡
Give it more time. It eventually does its work but it needs the time, lots of it.
The saddest thing in life is wasted talent-Lorenzo Arnello, A Bronx Tale

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by NVTS » Wed Nov 15, 2017 2:15 am

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LO- married 47,work colleagues

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by Pudding » Wed Nov 15, 2017 3:30 am

I checked the last option, that it has helped but I am still thinking of him. It’s only been 4.5 months or so though. I am pretty sure I would be doing better, and could “get over him” 100%, if I knew for sure I wouldn’t see him again. As his return is a bit up in the air, I feel stuck in limbo. Trying to work through things and decrease the LE but there is that voice in the very back of my mind saying, “But you may get to see him again in a few months!” Ugh [-x
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LC beyond my control ~x(

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by Flgrl35 » Wed Nov 15, 2017 4:17 am

It'll be two years in February, I still think about him more than I would like to but not as much as I used to. My feelings for him are still the same though. #:-s
I also have dreams about him but I never get to see his face.
Hopefully time will help us all heal. =((

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by ReeledIn » Wed Nov 15, 2017 6:29 am

Pudding wrote:
Wed Nov 15, 2017 3:30 am
I checked the last option, that it has helped but I am still thinking of him. It’s only been 4.5 months or so though. I am pretty sure I would be doing better, and could “get over him” 100%, if I knew for sure I wouldn’t see him again. As his return is a bit up in the air, I feel stuck in limbo. Trying to work through things and decrease the LE but there is that voice in the very back of my mind saying, “But you may get to see him again in a few months!” Ugh [-x

Pudding, I'm at 4.5 months too. Of course my "NC" is really "LC," since we work together... I'm worried about never moving on since I see him every day.

Anyway.. you and I are on the same timeline. :ymhug:

I chose the 3rd option as well... NC/LC has helped me recover my life. I moved back in with SO and we're trying to pick up the pieces. There is truly NO place like home when you go through the major ordeal my life has been since last December. It's hard trying to pick up pieces with an SO when you're still limerent for someone else. I've explained most of it to SO and he's so understanding. I don't think I'd be as gracious... in fact I know I wouldn't.
47yo female, LO/ex PA partner is 54, single dad & coworker
LE started June 2016, PA started Dec 2016
LC began June 2017
Now reconciled with wonderful SO


For my story if interested:
http://limerence.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=3738

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by ReeledIn » Wed Nov 15, 2017 6:33 am

Windy1 wrote:
Wed Nov 15, 2017 2:15 am

Lemme put in the context of longest LE -20+yrs and current LE since April of this year.
Holy ______________!!!!!!! (20 years?!?!?)

Where is your story published, Windy? I must read it.
47yo female, LO/ex PA partner is 54, single dad & coworker
LE started June 2016, PA started Dec 2016
LC began June 2017
Now reconciled with wonderful SO


For my story if interested:
http://limerence.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=3738

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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by David » Wed Nov 15, 2017 7:14 am

Its coming up for 3 years total NC and I still have the occasional fond thought of LO. I've noticed there is less and lass euphoric recall as time goes by.

And why would I not have lingering thoughts for someone that touched my soul, woke me up and was the catalyst for so much change in my life? So much positive has come from the experience.
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Re: Did No contact with LO help You?

Post by Matty5000 » Wed Nov 15, 2017 9:22 am

Had about 6 months of NC. Have Limited contact now, once or twice a week. NC is definately better. I would definately pick NC over LC or seeing LO every day.
Other people make excellent mirrors.
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