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Your Reaction When You See LO

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Reaction to LO

Surprised
2
6%
"Pop" or "Bang"
12
38%
Thunderstruck
9
28%
Comparable to seeing them for the first time
3
9%
Defeat
6
19%
No Reaction
0
No votes
 
Total votes: 32

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Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by AMA210 » Sat Oct 14, 2017 6:51 pm

I would like to find out how many of us limerents experience that "pop" or "bang" when seeing LO.
I wonder if it's unique to limerence or experienced generally when infatuated.
I have never had this same reaction with anyone else.
53 years old, married for 27 years
LE was 22 months and LO works four blocks from my home

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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by FreeBird » Sat Oct 14, 2017 7:00 pm

"Pop"/"Bang" comes closest to describing it. Like something overtakes you? My heart goes "boom" and my senses are heightened.

I remember a scene from the movie, The Godfather, Michael was said to have been hit by the "thunderbolt" (or was it lightning bolt) when he first saw Apollonia , his Italian soon-to-be wife. THAT'S the feeling I get.
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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by townshend » Sat Oct 14, 2017 7:10 pm

It can literally be described as "!". Like I get a little "!" In my chest, especially if we make eye contact.
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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by Pudding » Sat Oct 14, 2017 9:47 pm

As I've always described it as feeling like a jolt to my system, I chose thunderstruck. I am very interested to see how it will feel (different?) when I finally see him again in the new year, after at least six months of NC.
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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by L-F » Sat Oct 14, 2017 10:00 pm

The feeling I get is of... RUN MOFO RUN!!!!!

Aka... flight response.
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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by SuckerForDopamine » Sun Oct 15, 2017 3:13 am

As Townshend says... eye contact makes it more "pop", actually for me it is/was like a relief, also 'pop" , wow, OMG, and "thank-you!!!!!"
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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by Pudding » Sun Oct 15, 2017 3:24 am

It also felt comforting to me, when he was around. Like it eased my spirit.
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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by ReeledIn » Sun Oct 15, 2017 6:52 am

I responded "defeat" which is how I feel now. In our pre-affair days and during-affair days I would say pop or bang... really it was a hit of dopamine..so it was like I just snorted a line of cocaine (which I've never tried, swear to god.) I am just guessing this is what coke would be like! (or heroin or morphine.. pick your drug of choice.)

I chose "defeat," however, because now I just feel rejection, which "defeat" aptly describes. I feel despair and longing, to be honest. I start to wonder what happened. I wonder how someone can be so interested one minute (to the point of talking about living together and having a future together) and so NOT interested the next. It baffles me. I've never done a 180 like this on anyone before, and I don't understand people who do. (I understand not really clicking with someone or not being attracted to someone.. but to go from wanting to be with someone all the time to -- in a couple of weeks -- the complete opposite of that.. is confounding)

Sorry.. I went off on a tangent.
Anyway, defeat, flight response.. but also a little bit of comfort knowing he's near. :ymsick: (oh brother!!!)

It's a strange, wicked cocktail of emotions... and it's every working day.

I know.. it's not healthy. Not healthy at all
47yo female, LO/ex PA partner is 54, single dad & coworker
Been with SO, age 51, since 1998
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For my story if interested:
http://limerence.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=3738

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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by french girl » Sun Oct 15, 2017 9:39 pm

I can't even answer any...
It's such a small workplace : each day that I see LO, even the days when we don't work together, he's still so close...
It's hard to describe what I feel...
When he arrives, this bastard doesn't even say "good morning" to me if I don't say it first...
It's just like seeing a cat coming in in the morning, I'm happy to see he's there, but nothing more... I feel his presence, and it's a nice feeling.
And like ReeledIn, I feel despair and longing sometimes, too, because he rejects me...

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Re: Your Reaction When You See LO

Post by ReeledIn » Sun Oct 15, 2017 10:02 pm

french girl wrote:
Sun Oct 15, 2017 9:39 pm
I can't even answer any...
It's such a small workplace : each day that I see LO, even the days when we don't work together, he's still so close...
It's hard to describe what I feel...
When he arrives, this bastard doesn't even say "good morning" to me if I don't say it first...
It's just like seeing a cat coming in in the morning, I'm happy to see he's there, but nothing more... I feel his presence, and it's a nice feeling.
And like ReeledIn, I feel despair and longing sometimes, too, because he rejects me...
:ymhug: :ymhug: :ymhug: :(

Same here...he ended things, yet now I am expected to be civil and cordial. WTF?
47yo female, LO/ex PA partner is 54, single dad & coworker
Been with SO, age 51, since 1998
LE since June 2016

For my story if interested:
http://limerence.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=3738

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