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LO's Behavior In Limerance

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What draws us into Limerence with our LO and keeps us hooked?

Intense eye contact
10
19%
Great personality
9
17%
Gives compliments and attention
7
13%
Physical appearance "hot damn"
10
19%
Being unavailable (married, LTR)
3
6%
Charming
3
6%
Being a good communicator
1
2%
Twin flame/soul mate
9
17%
Other
1
2%
 
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LO's Behavior In Limerance

Post by AMA210 » Sun Mar 19, 2017 6:59 pm

What is it that draws us into the Limerent state with LO and what keeps us hooked?
52 years old, married for 26 years
LE was 22 months

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Re: LO's Behavior In Limerance

Post by JupiterTaco » Sun Mar 19, 2017 7:06 pm

In my case, I think the eye-contact has always started my limerence episodes, and I always said there's "something about" LOs, they were never like "other guys", I suppose that's where the wound-mate thing comes in. Trying to help someone or even wanting to when you're wounded yourself, I mean it doesn't really work. It's amazing how we never learn that in school! :-D
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Re: LO's Behavior In Limerance

Post by AMA210 » Sun Mar 19, 2017 7:30 pm

JupiterTaco wrote:
Sun Mar 19, 2017 7:06 pm
In my case, I think the eye-contact has always started my limerence episodes, and I always said there's "something about" LOs, they were never like "other guys", I suppose that's where the wound-mate thing comes in. Trying to help someone or even wanting to when you're wounded yourself, I mean it doesn't really work. It's amazing how we never learn that in school! :-D
I said that too -- a lot.
There is something about him that I just can't put my finger on.
I am still trying to figure out why I couldn't end it. Perhaps I wanted to help him.
Two broken people can't fix each other.
52 years old, married for 26 years
LE was 22 months

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Re: LO's Behavior In Limerance

Post by sydney0845 » Sun Mar 26, 2017 12:52 am

I out great personality, physical appearance and soulmate.

But with a couple of caveats - LO is definitely attractive, but not necessarily always in 'hot damn' kind of way. My thoughts tend to veer towards wanting to spend time with her and be around her more than thoughts of how hot she is.

And with the soul mate thing - I wouldn't go that far, it's more that we have similar tastes and sense of humour which has undoubtedly contributed to us becoming good friends. But I wouldn't say she was my soul mate or anything - we certainly haven't reached that level of reciprocal closeness.

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Re: LO's Behavior In Limerance

Post by JellyBean » Sun Mar 26, 2017 4:48 am

Aquamarine21 wrote:
Sun Mar 19, 2017 6:59 pm
What is it that draws us into the Limerent state with LO and what keeps us hooked?
Mental illness

and

Emotional childhood abuse - true story/end of story

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Re: LO's Behavior In Limerance

Post by David » Sun Mar 26, 2017 6:43 am

Interesting questions. I would have answered differently initially, as i became more aware i could see what the unconscious attractions were. These were far more powerful IMHO.
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." - C.G. Jung

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