Not jealous of LO’s partner, but jealous of our mutual friend

[DamonBarrettEsq]

Edited, because I feel like the post was too specific as it was originally.

Anyway, I’m in the same social circle/group of creative collaborators as both my LO and a (relatively) recent addition to the group/social circle. This recent addition has a similar creative role as I had, and it’s something which my LO admires as a talent and seems to get a charge out of witnessing (she seemed to intently enjoy watching me in the past, and has now moved onto the new guy).

I should mention that my LO now has an SO who is not in this group, and who I’m oddly not jealous of at all. Her SO seems quite different from me, which I think helps. However, this new guy in the group seems more similar to me (in his talent, his awkwardness, his perpetual single hood and the seeming enjoyment of the attention he gets from LO).

I’m sorry this is so vague, but I want to talk about more personal issues on this forum and I’m trying to stay away from anything personally identifying as much as possible. Anyway, it feels like such a ridiculous situation to care about, even in the world of limerence. I’ve been realizing the depth of my past traumas and personality issues over the past few years, and I’ve accepted the idea of being single until I’m more comfortable with myself and frankly more functional in my life. However, it’s like that bit of happiness and affirmation that I had in my life just had to be taken away.

I’m so whiny, I know. But I should have appreciated the connection I had with my LO while it lasted. Now I may need to leave this group, obliterating much of my social life in the process, in order to avoid witnessing the current situations and all the stupidly negative feelings it inspires.

[JupiterTaco]

Would journaling help?

[DamonBarrettEsq]

I used to do that in the early days of this LE (before I realized it even was that). It was more in a creative writing sort of way than traditional journaling. However, journaling more earnestly now, just for myself, seems like a great idea. Thanks.