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Maybe to check you're remaining"professional", you could compare with the interactions you have with other female coworkers.
If you do have other female coworkers with whom you're supposed to have the same level of interaction, that is.
At work, I have plenty of male coworkers to do that : I can see clearly how I can act differently with LO.
I even have quite "intimate" conversations with some of my male coworkers, and I'm not limerent over them (nor them over me).
I can talk with them about nearly any subject : the dreams we had last night, we can joke about sex, or I would tell them my deepest feelings about life (without them asking for it - I tell them anyway.... ).
It's totally inappropriate between coworkers, thinking of it.
But nobody's limerent, so it's all right...
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Being in a position of leadership AND with the current atmosphere in the USA of #METOO, I am always courteous and friendly to EVERYONE. Although I do notice more women" checking me out" these days I don't take advantage of it. I keep things on the up and up even though I developed strong romantic/sexual feelings for LO, I never did or said anything inappropriate. Whatever flirting was going on was very subtle from either of us.
Since we have been LC since New Years and as tempted as I am to be more flirty I'm not.
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I feel like this is what is happening with me and my LO at the moment. It's a variation of friendship.
We are not super close friends (no one can accuse us of having an emotional affair because we are not close), but we are friendly to each other, and we care for each other (he cares for me because I am a fellow human being and he is just a good guy like that).
We both want the best for each other. That is crystal clear.
His "feelings" for me are most likely altruistic. I am trying my best to steer myself there. I am not sure how I am going to do that...
Once I do, we will have a real friendship. I'm hoping so much for this to happen. Then I will be free!
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