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You folks all have some really great points and I'm beginning to feel very thankful that I found this forum. I'm in a mess of a situation no doubt about it, particularly because I'm struggling with the idea of how to go NC (more likely just LC) with how intertwined our lives have become. I'm almost dreading the upcoming several days as we have a planned night out for live music event with SO, LO, & LO's SO. It's all shaping up to be an overwhelming night of emotion and I'm nearly sick just thinking about the rollercoaster. Anyway....tis the bed I've made for myself at this stage of my life, the show must go on and I must figure this out. When I get a moment, I'll try to address some more of your replies/questions. Thanks again!
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Great post Pete.Pete wrote: There were also ways in which she was very compatible with her husband that I just ignored.
I believe they (LOs and LOs SO) have their own issues to sort and yes, there will be some reason they are together even if not viewable to the limerent person. We tend to gloss over LOs SO and want to make them out to be some sort of monster. Naturally limerents would want to do that, it makes the limerent person feel superior. "I am better than LOs SO... I would treat LO with the respect she/he deserves" which is ironic when the SO is often the one missing out. From an outsiders point of view, others could view us (the limerents) as not treating our SO as well as we could. Tis all a matter of perspective.
Anyway, wanted to say that I really liked your honest feedback Pete. Not judge-y at all.
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LO is M 37, my son’s former teacher
LC beyond my control
LE began in the fall of 2015
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