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The problem with keeping an avenue of access is the temptation to stalk, see what they are up to, do they like your posts, do they still think about you? Etc etc.
One way I’ve been able to keep an avenue open AND stay somewhat sane is to go NC and record the number of times I look at his status. Record religiously. Then when I want to stalk, I remember, ‘hey if I do, I’ll need to write that down, and I’ve been going so well..’
Having a friend you talk to when you’re tempted to stalk or look at their page can help. Keeping a journal or record can help too.
Having a avenue of contact during the first few weeks of NC is HARD and I wouldn’t recommend it. Gets friend to change ur fb password if you must. But after about a month of NC, when the bond isn’t as strong, can be doable if you have the mental courage and strength to tell yourself not to stalk or even look at their page.
Multiple LO's since primary school ending with reciprication, transference, starvation and burnout.
Started NC 10/12/18 with last platonic LO.
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I admit, I am still friends w him on FB because of our family connections and the history on FB (it would be strange if we were no longer friends on there/noticeable to others)but like Katrulz does, I make pacts with myself to not go to his page "for the rest of the month" or "until next year" etc.
It helps that he doesn't post much and there's not much to see that I haven't thoroughly examined already.
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