I agree so much confusedGirl3! sometimes you need to face your fantacised version of LO with real LO in order to break that bubble in your mind. This can especially apply in cases like mine where I dont know my LO so well let alone having spoken a few words only.confusedGirl3 wrote: ↑Tue Nov 10, 2015 2:05 amI do not like the idea of NC. It is like having chocolate in front of you and you are on a diet. you will just crave it more and more.
I would say if you are not harming anyone or doing something wrong and if you are both available then spend as much time as you can with your LO.
specially if you do not know your LO well, it will help you slowly eliminate the fantasy and replace it with the image of the real person.
If I keep living in a fantasy, then I might never get over it.
In this case, having contact will help sometimes to wake up from your dream and face him head on to see the real him and probably help to cut down your LE thoughts.