I am a bit worried about him getting angry and how that could affect everything and everyone. I admit, I don't think of every possibility. I don't want to create a hostile environment because my eldest son is very close with their eldest and even their youngest. I don't want LO and his wife to freak out and punish my child because of me!Pattihopeful wrote: ↑Wed Jan 01, 2020 10:49 pm
You have a unique situation in that you are neighbors and have families that socialize. That is hard. Disclosure could really blow up your life depending on how LO takes it. It is very risky and you never know what the LO will do with that information.
Every other possibility seems easier to handle. I would be shocked if he responded that way because every real thing that I know about him would indicate that he would never be angry that I have feelings. He works in mental health. I could say more, but maybe that's too much detail..
I think this a lot. That he knows and he is setting boundaries. He is pretty obviously setting boundaries. But, it's the why that I don't know. He could be setting boundaries for different reasons. Disclosing to him would reveal the reason, I think. If he was honest with me. And that's another thing, I don't know if he would give me an honest response if I disclosed.Pattihopeful wrote: ↑Wed Jan 01, 2020 10:49 pm It is easy during an LE to read into their behavior. It could be he is trying to set boundaries because he can sense your feelings.
That is another BIG reason that I don't want to. I would disclose to get the TRUTH out. Not just on my side, but on his side. If I can't get the truth from his side, I don't want to give him my truth. He probably doesn't WANT to know my truth! Hahah! If he is onto me, and he really wanted to know if he was right, he would try to find out. He's not doing that. So, if he thinks that I have a crush on him, he does not want that verified. He's pulling away, "just in case".
Based on what happened between us the last time we were (not totally) "alone" together, I would say he is avoiding me to avoid an affair with me.
But, I could be wrong! I really wish I knew!
Or I really wish I didn't care to know. Sigh.