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Maddie
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needing some resources if you have any

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Anyone know of good books or websites that you'd recommend to deal with these 2 issues?
healing from emotional neglect in childhood
coping with borderline personality disorder

thank you in advance!
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Re: needing some resources if you have any

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Hi Maddie,

I've bought, but haven't read yet, this:

The Emotionally Absent Mother : A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed

https://www.bookdepository.com/Emotiona ... SIQAvD_BwE

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hey! that sounds great! I'll probably order that. thank you Mr Spock!
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Hey Maddie, there are too many good books to list. Some are posted in the parenting section, book section, FOO section, and other sections.

I don't have a personal favorite as I read as many as I can get my hands on. I know, I know, this is not answering your question but just wanted to share a tip.

When I come across a title of a book, I type in the title followed by 'goodreads'. Often I find the reviews help me to decide if the book is for me.

Here is a perfect example of different feedback on a book titled 'Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder'
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/188 ... _Eggshells

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/926 ... ent-mother

People often share other books they prefer, etc, or a list of similar books appear.

Sorry I couldn't give you a specific resource to follow. I skim read many blogs too, and always check to see who the author is, ie. are they a doctor, where do they work? That sort of thing.

Another topic to consider is "reparenting" an example [blog] https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfec ... -yourself/

I guess my point is, whatever book is recommended whether in a blog or wherever, check to see what others say about it. Not saying the book Mr Spock has suggested is not a good book, I'm just sharing a tip I use to help me decide if it's worth my investment.

Happy reading :-B

Hopefully others have a favorite go-to book they can share.
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Thanks so much LF!!!
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I really enjoyed that article on re-parenting. I'd always heard that term, but it seemed vague. That helped to understand the concept more. That was interesting especially in regards to not setting limits for yourself-- I've really struggled with that but my aim is to improve in this area as soon as possible. it is so challenging! I also hope to get in the habit of doing some of these things so I can pass them down to the kids (better habits).
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I Hate You, Don't Leave Me and Looking For Mr. Goodbar are good reads.
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MrSpock wrote:
Thu Aug 06, 2020 9:20 pm

The Emotionally Absent Mother : A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed

https://www.bookdepository.com/Emotiona ... SIQAvD_BwE
I bet that would be insightful, my mother was very emotionally absent when I was young. Sadly. she passed from cancer when I was in my early 20s, we were just starting to get to know each other as people, breaking out of the parent-child thing.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
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Another good site I came across is wehavekids.com
They have a section 'Parenting' and under that is 'Abuse Issues'
  • The Psychological Effect of a Controlling Mother (and How I Dealt With It)
  • How an Emotionally Absent Mother Impacts Her Daughter's Life
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Thanks you JT and LF-- I will check out those books and sites :)

@Peter...that is sad! I hate that she passed right as you were becoming friends:( I miss my mother too, bunches!
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