LC providing relief

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peter.rabbit
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Re: LC providing relief

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JupiterTaco wrote:
Sat Jul 04, 2020 6:33 pm
Do you think you can be friends with her without the feelings?
I doubt it, considering my Limerence. However, in the past some months I've been making conscious efforts to constrain the obsessive thoughts. It's working, much in the same way as my effort to break 10+ years of rumination that had consumed my emotional energy, after my last divorce.
I'm NOT going on antidepressants, and therapy is probably beyond my reach, with the health coverage I have. I still would like to do some counseling sessions, but 80 mile round trips kinda takes the 'thrill' out of that venture.
JupiterTaco wrote:
Sat Jul 04, 2020 6:33 pm
And even if so, are you 100% sure she won't use the "friend" situation to manipulate your feelings?
Nothing in this world is 100% certain, but she surely has had the opportunity to manipulate me, these past 6 years if she so desired. She is genuine, and just behaves appropriately.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
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Re: LC providing relief

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peter.rabbit wrote:
Sat Jul 04, 2020 11:47 pm
JupiterTaco wrote:
Sat Jul 04, 2020 6:33 pm
Do you think you can be friends with her without the feelings?
I doubt it, considering my Limerence. However, in the past some months I've been making conscious efforts to constrain the obsessive thoughts. It's working, much in the same way as my effort to break 10+ years of rumination that had consumed my emotional energy, after my last divorce.
I'm NOT going on antidepressants, and therapy is probably beyond my reach, with the health coverage I have. I still would like to do some counseling sessions, but 80 mile round trips kinda takes the 'thrill' out of that venture.
JupiterTaco wrote:
Sat Jul 04, 2020 6:33 pm
And even if so, are you 100% sure she won't use the "friend" situation to manipulate your feelings?
Nothing in this world is 100% certain, but she surely has had the opportunity to manipulate me, these past 6 years if she so desired. She is genuine, and just behaves appropriately.
Oh that's good then.
"Byreeeeeeeen! Byreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen!"

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Re: LC providing relief

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Eventhough LC does lower all of my Limerent tenancies and anxieties, as of late I'm concerned about her because she hasn't been on Facebook at all. As much as I'd like to text her and ask how she's doing, I'm just going to leave that poor woman alone to live her private life. I just have to keep focusing on the idea that I'm not her freakin' "boyfriend", Lol.

If life ever gets back to "normal" and we are in contact frequently like before, I'm sure the LE will power back up to full strength. <sigh>
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein

peter.rabbit
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Re: LC providing relief

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peter.rabbit wrote:
Thu Jul 30, 2020 4:11 pm
Eventhough LC does lower all of my Limerent tenancies and anxieties, as of late I'm concerned about her because she hasn't been on Facebook at all. As much as I'd like to text her and ask how she's doing, I'm just going to leave that poor woman alone to live her private life. I just have to keep focusing on the idea that I'm not her freakin' "boyfriend", Lol.

If life ever gets back to "normal" and we are in contact frequently like before, I'm sure the LE will power back up to full strength. <sigh>
...continuing down the path of life- I believe LC will continue, as our main venue for encounter was our small town fitness center, which is now extinct. We will still have limited interaction, mostly on FB, but no significant activity to spike those "reward" neurotransmitters. Of course, my Limerent mind will always be looking for opportunities. I mentioned in another thread having met her husband, he will be retiring in a few days, maybe he'll want to be buddies, I'll leave that to him to make that move. ;)
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
-Albert Einstein

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