LC does really make a big difference, glad to hear you're LE has transitioned into a friendship. For me, LC is a relief...so much so that I actually hope NOT to have those chance encounters that I used to fantasize about having.SomeGuy wrote: ↑Thu Jun 18, 2020 10:38 amHaven't been on in ~ 1 year. My LO moved away and my limerence faded. Limited contact really helps! I still talk to her on professional level, but the limerent feelings are not present anymore. She is a friend now and not a LO; this part is a true success story about beating limerence.
So...now that she is gone, what now? I beat limerence and filled it with what? I still have the stress of marriage, mid-life, 2 teens, running a company, and of course all the 2020 crap gone wrong. But that is not what eats at me. Its the emptiness that I used to fill with limerence. Now its just empty, like my senses were dulled and I am sleepwalking through life. I feel like everyone needs me, but no one wants me. I am having trouble rejuvenating. With limerence, I would rejuvenate easily with the fantasy. Its gone, What now?
,I feel like everyone needs me, but no one wants me
I had that feeling in my previous marriage, was in my early 40s at the time. Teenagers, wife of 15 years that was distant, non affectionate, a future LO not too far away...
Maybe now would be a good time to get some counseling, perhaps involve your wife so that she can understand and participate.