Songs to help us move on and heal from limerence

[Spinnaker]

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[Rocinante]

Just another one of those beautiful campfire-like songs by Neutral Milk Hotel (so if you cry your eyes out don't worry, you're having the totally normal, intended reaction to this band's work )

This one's a little morbid, but I think it's really great for addressing the whole projection / "wound" / anima dimensions of limerence; it lets you see what it is from a distance, if that makes any sense.

My Dream Girl Don't Exist
Neutral Milk Hotel

( Lyrics: https://genius.com/Neutral-milk-hotel-m ... ist-lyrics )

[Rocinante]

Two by Real Friends. Pretty much directly to the heart of it!

I Don't Love You Anymore - Real Friends


I Give Up On You - Real Friends

[Rachykate12]

I've posted this before on the 'what song are you listening to right now?' thread, but I thought it would be more relevant here. It took me a while to warm to this song but now I can't stop listening to it. I think the lyrics 'give yourself a try' are so relevant to limerence. Its saying that despite the pain and whatever mistakes have been made, the answer is within us, or maybe its just saying 'you're okay- believe in yourself a bit more'. Anyway, I find it really up lifting and it reminds me to focus on me, not LO
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Give Yourself A Try

The 1975

You learn a couple things when you get to my age
Like friends don't lie and it all tastes the same in the dark
When your vinyl and your coffee collection is a sign of the times
You're getting spiritually enlightened at 29

So just give yourself a try
Won't you give yourself a try?
Won't you give yourself a try?
Won't you give?

I found a grey hair in one of my suits
Like context in a modern debate I just took it out
The only apparatus required for happiness 
is your pain and fucking going outside
And getting STD's at 27 really isn't the vibe
Jane took her own life at 16
She was a kid who had the box tattooed on her arm
And I was 25 and afraid to go outside
A millenial that baby-boomers like

Won't you give yourself a try?
Won't you give yourself a try?
Won't you give yourself a try?
Won't you give?

'And what would you say to your younger self?'
Growing a beard's quite hard
And whiskey never starts to taste nice
And you'll make a lot of money, and it's funny
'Cause you'll move somewhere sunny and get addicted to drugs
And spend obscene amounts on fucking seeds and beans online

So just give yourself a try
Won't you give yourself a try?
Won't you give yourself try?

[Rocinante]

I've posted this before on the 'what song are you listening to right now?' thread, but I thought it would be more relevant here. It took me a while to warm to this song but now I can't stop listening to it. I think the lyrics 'give yourself a try' are so relevant to limerence. Its saying that despite the pain and whatever mistakes have been made, the answer is within us, or maybe its just saying 'you're okay- believe in yourself a bit more'. Anyway, I find it really up lifting and it reminds me to focus on me, not

Beautiful.

[Rocinante]

More in the “accept and acknowledge, and then blast it out of your system with mind-melting distortion” vein.

Sebadoh - Soul and Fire


Sebadoh - Brand New Love

[Rocinante]

So yesterday
I went to our former marriage counsellor and I broke down and confessed
This feeling/wound for someone who’s gone
that feels too huge to understand
That I described like the gravity of a stray neutron star
Passing by the earth to rip it apart
And the only thing that stops it is really sad music

“No more raging suns, only fading ones” — whew.

Future Islands - Little Dreamer

[Spinnaker]

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[Spinnaker]

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[Rocinante]

This one's a poem, by the late Charles Bukowski. I'm mixed on his work but this is top notch. It seems like every few years I rediscover this poem. I've always appreciated its faith that we're not "stuck" where we are, even in dire or bleak conditions.

The Laughing Heart

your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them.
take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you.

And here is Tom Waits reading it: