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Is it over now?

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Loza50
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Is it over now?

Post by Loza50 » Thu May 17, 2018 3:21 pm

Hello it's been awhile since I have been on here 3 years to be exact and I have been looking over my posts, I was so addicted/ obsessed/and craved my Lo like a drug, my whole life revolved around being validated by him I wanted him to want me so badly I was completely blinded by it that everything/everyone fell to the way side it's been a long journey so euphoric yet so heart breaking when I wasn't fantasizing about him during the day he was in my dreams at night, I've noticed recently that I'm not as devastated as I used to be if I don't see him and can now go days without craving his presence or pining to be in his company, I feel this madness is finally easing off I still find him attractive but in a more normal manageable way is this the end? Have any of you experienced this 3 year withdrawal of feelings I'd be very interested to hear from you , thanks for reading X loz

marko
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Re: Is it over now?

Post by marko » Thu May 17, 2018 6:38 pm

They can become quite distant as the reason you needed them changes. Gone but not forgotten. If you think of when you think of them, think of those thoughts. They may point to why you do. I noticed it was my anxiety therapy. As dread and doubt creep in, I think of this person. I notice a complete pattern of mental escape when that yuck feeling like depression creeps in. To bad it's a reaction, makes addressing it harder.

JupiterTaco
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Re: Is it over now?

Post by JupiterTaco » Fri May 18, 2018 1:36 am

I'm approaching the three-year mark and even though I don't think I'll relapse again, I'm not going to risk that by looking former LO up or looking at his picture. I think a potential relapse is more dependent on how aware you've become in that time to your triggers, to your LOs behavior and actions, and your own behavior and actions/reactions.
"The road to hell is paved with good intentions, yeah,"-Madonna, 4 Minutes

Oh and...it's also a proverb... :-\

Loza50
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Re: Is it over now?

Post by Loza50 » Fri May 18, 2018 8:17 am

Thank you both for your time to read my post and your replies, I made the mistake of texting my Lo yesterday as I noticed he was on instagram and just generally chatting to a few mural friends I thought I'd join the chat and say hi, I so wish I hadn't gone with this impulse as he completely blanked my message and continued his conversation with the others t was like a slap in the face and I now feel so foolish and could kick myself for putting myself in the position to feel anxious and second guessing myself all over again.!!!!

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