I just discovered,he is a piece of shit!

[dian]

What a relief!
So many years (5), I thought, we could be friends...
And he might treat me different, and behave like a friend.
I realised, illusion! (Yesterday I was talking to my friend, who is also a friend of him)
My mind told me this, all these years, but I didn t believe it. What a relief, being furious and realistic.
Thank Goddess and God

[Cookie]

What a relief!
So many years (5), I thought, we could be friends...
And he might treat me different, and behave like a friend.
I realised, illusion! (Yesterday I was talking to my friend, who is also a friend of him)
My mind told me this, all these years, but I didn t believe it. What a relief, being furious and realistic.
Thank Goddess and God

Aw, Dian -- yeah. Cognitive dissonance for sure. Even in the face of what we knew all along, we just didn't believe it or want to believe it.

I would just say, don't be surprised if "knowing" isn't a magic bullet for stopping limerence. I could make a list a mile long, with the most recent knife in the back of finding out the LO stole from me. And if he were to walk in the room right now, I'd probably hug him...not punch him like I should.

Also maybe don't spend too much time talking to your mutual friend about him. Before you know it, you've replaced your addiction to LO with addiction to talking about the LO!! Still precious time lost.

I'm sorry he turned out to be an awful dud. Been there!!!!

[dian]

Also maybe don't spend too much time talking to your mutual friend about him. Before you know it, you've replaced your addiction to LO with addiction to talking about the LO!! Still precious time lost. 
We only spoke about him for one minute (out of 90),
I ve had many LO s in my life, all of them I dropped, sooner or later. The last one, she behaved like shit towards me as well...
It probably was 5, 6 years also, when it just went...
Feeling furious , I could feel, I was putting up boundaries. It s afeeling I rarely experience. Pushing awayfeelings is a problem I have had for just much too long.

[dian]

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[NoDayDreaming]

sorry Dian for your painful journey. are you better off now?

[dian]

LE is fading away

[JMS164]

Ah, I wish I could have this kind of moment of clarity. Glad to hear your limerence is fading and the evidence of LOs true self was enough to assist you with moving on

[dian]

....well, 5 years had to go by....
In which I made a fool out of myself, (as many of us do) and he finally asked for NC, (18 months ago)
But, until then , he behaved horrible, selfish, egocentric...

[dian]

...and I denied what he did to me, holding on to some fantasy...

[NoDayDreaming]

Dian, to make you feel better, i knew from the early phases that she wanted to take advantage of me, but in the fog of limerence, i was happy to give her everything i could. the fact she seemed egotical didn't stop me from going further on.