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NC needed before my LO gets married

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Sara
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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Mon Feb 17, 2020 8:14 am

This weekend i felt better!!! 😅😅 my son slept better my parents cheered us up... LO is far and we are in NC.
On thursday night i changed my pic with a pic with my husband... he changed on sunday his profile pic with a pic with his wife... coincidence?? I dont think so.. it did broke my heart and shook me up ... he never changes his pic so no coincidence at all.. more a revenge.. i feel sick thats it we have broken up .. i dont want to see him again finished
limerence with Dom Juan since sept 2015

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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Mon Feb 17, 2020 11:08 am

Also ... he blocked me on whatsapp last night!!
I know because he saw my status
This morning i sent a text on the group it shows that it hasnt been distributed to him.
So yes pretty harsh reaction putting a pic with his wife and blocking me
It is over
I must have hurt him im sad about it but we had stop this
limerence with Dom Juan since sept 2015

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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Mon Feb 17, 2020 8:54 pm

I feel empty, sad, resigned to the fact that it couldnt have worked between us
Too complicated
I m sad i broke his heart
Im sad he broke mine
Sad sad sad
I keep on looking at his picture and checking his last connection ... hes moved on
Or trying to ...
Im worried because our mutual friends want to arrange a big lunch next week i think i shouldnt see him
Not now
I feel even more exhausted than before
limerence with Dom Juan since sept 2015

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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Wed Feb 19, 2020 3:52 pm

Day 10 of NC .. wow
Getting ready for when hes back to work next Monday... craving for him even more today, the most i felt in a long time.. i just dont believe it! My body and mind dont work together its a pain.
Also need to get psychologically prepared to say no to a lunch either by ignoring him or telling him the truth or pretending i cant.
He might not reach out of course.
I wonder if its in my head or if hes mad at me which explains the blocking and change of pic or if its pure coincidence and he just doesnt see me as anything else but a close friend
limerence with Dom Juan since sept 2015

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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Fri Feb 21, 2020 8:50 am

Day11 of NC / day 15 since our last meeting i feel soooo good today!!!
I slept well last night, third night in a row, i guess my worries and anxiousness related to LO are less strong and intense, even my kids are more relaxed, happy, cuddly :-)
Big test is next week when hes back to town.
Ive planned lunches every day already to avoid being tempted to go to lunch with him (if he reaches out).
Anyway his profile pic with his wife makes me feel sick there is no chance ill accept to meet him if he asks.
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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Mon Feb 24, 2020 9:21 am

Day 14 of NC and 18 since we last met.. i feel good my kids sleep really well these days, im getting closer to my husband again :)
Its a proof to anyone that NC is a good thing to fight limerence
Hes back today i think, im very very nervous and dreading the moment when he will reach out and ill say NOOOOO
No more messing around im done playing
Hes a bit weird now that I see things clearly trying to get close to a married woman mother of 2 when he just got engaged and now married.
For what reason?? He can see clearly that i was very attached to him,i was texting all the time and he enjoyed the attention but then didnt want to be physical. He just enjoys the game because hes bored in his life
I was a toy a distraction a puppet
Im not exactly white and innocent because i also used him somehow
But ive suffered enough and so did my family
I dont want to play anymore
limerence with Dom Juan since sept 2015

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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Hopeless Lomantic » Mon Feb 24, 2020 5:47 pm

Great progress there.. and I can see you are almost completely kicking this addiction out.. do u see a point in being friends again after the LE is over ?

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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Mon Feb 24, 2020 5:56 pm

I have tried soo many times and i cant be friends with him , The physical attraction is always on the way and im limerent again. I know he can because he has a lot of borderline friend like me - im one of many he can juggle , i simply cant have a few boyfriends in the same time 🤔
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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Maddie » Mon Feb 24, 2020 6:21 pm

Sara wrote:
Mon Feb 24, 2020 5:56 pm
I have tried soo many times and i cant be friends with him , The physical attraction is always on the way and im limerent again.
I couldn't have said it better myself, Sara. I feel the same way.
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ex-LO, 51 , M
Mental health is an ongoing commitment to reality at all costs-- (M Scott Peck)

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Re: NC needed before my LO gets married

Post by Sara » Tue Feb 25, 2020 11:50 am

I DID IT!! I said no today to a lunch invite
Big big achievement
I feel sick and super highly stressed and nervous but i did it..
I notice that he didnt ask in our group chat with common friends even if we have discussed to meet up this week but he came directly to me.
Voila .. NC is slightly broken but still 19 days of no meeting
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