Hi everyone,
I just wrote out my whole (long) story and accidentally lost it. Wow. I'll try again another time soon, but in the meantime, I was glad to come across this site and hope to use it as an AA meeting of sorts, in case I'm ever tempted to look my LO up. I've been doing really well, but it's been a rough few days for some reason, and I'm having that itch. I haven't seen his online presence in a year, haven't seen him in five. The whole thing went down eight years ago, but I guess I'll have to tell my story another time.
I'd never wish the hell of limerence on anyone, but I'm comforted to know there are others who've been through similar experiences.
Quick about me...this experience has completely changed my life. Totally transformed me personally, and my marriage. Most days I'm actually happy now, and there was a time I couldn't imagine the day I'd be out of the dark.
That being said, what my experience also gave me is self-awareness. I know I'm capable of getting completely lost in this person. I like to think I've grown beyond that now, but I like the idea of having an outlet in case we ever crossed paths again. I just don't really know for sure how I would react to that.
For those of you in the thick of it, my heart genuinely goes out to you in compassion. I want you to know that there is hope and life beyond limerence.
Best wishes to you all.
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Re: Still Processing...Years Later
Hi Moira,
I'm sorry you lost your post. I've done that a couple of times on this forum with careless use of the 'back' button. It's very frustrating
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You sound like you have worked your way through long and difficult times to achieve understanding and some peace? By yourself? If so, I am full of admiration for you. And even if not, I am full of admiration for you, because there's no easy way to do it. I would still be in the wilderness and in pain without the support I've found here.
In another thread somewhere here (which I will never be able to find again) some wise person likened this site to methadone. I liked that, but this site as AA meeting ... ? I like that too

I'm sorry you lost your post. I've done that a couple of times on this forum with careless use of the 'back' button. It's very frustrating

You sound like you have worked your way through long and difficult times to achieve understanding and some peace? By yourself? If so, I am full of admiration for you. And even if not, I am full of admiration for you, because there's no easy way to do it. I would still be in the wilderness and in pain without the support I've found here.
In another thread somewhere here (which I will never be able to find again) some wise person likened this site to methadone. I liked that, but this site as AA meeting ... ? I like that too


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Re: Still Processing...Years Later
My story echoes yours in many many ways, even from the little you shared.
Welcome to your new AA meeting! ... where we keep you on the straight and narrow with tough love, shared experiences, and humour (sometimes dark), but always with your recovery in mind.
Welcome to your new AA meeting! ... where we keep you on the straight and narrow with tough love, shared experiences, and humour (sometimes dark), but always with your recovery in mind.
Have conquered limerence.
I'm no expert, but have learnt enough to know where to look for answers.
I'm no expert, but have learnt enough to know where to look for answers.
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Re: Still Processing...Years Later
Thank you for the tip!TheMoon wrote: ↑Sat May 19, 2018 12:16 amHi Moira,
I'm sorry you lost your post. I've done that a couple of times on this forum with careless use of the 'back' button. It's very frustrating.
You sound like you have worked your way through long and difficult times to achieve understanding and some peace? By yourself? If so, I am full of admiration for you. And even if not, I am full of admiration for you, because there's no easy way to do it. I would still be in the wilderness and in pain without the support I've found here.
In another thread somewhere here (which I will never be able to find again) some wise person likened this site to methadone. I liked that, but this site as AA meeting ... ? I like that too![]()
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It has been a long and extremely grueling journey. I definitely have gained some understanding and peace, and yes, it's been by myself, with the help of lots of books and googling, a little therapy (some helpful, some not,) one or two helpful friends, around three tons of tears, and a side of some screaming in my car.

Methadone, that's perfect! Thank you for making me feel welcome and for your kind words.
"Love liberates. It doesn't bind." -Maya Angelou
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Re: Still Processing...Years Later
That's terrible that you've suffered something so difficult. Peace to you. And thank you for your welcoming words! Ooh, I love dark humor, it's my favorite.

"Love liberates. It doesn't bind." -Maya Angelou
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