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Hi everybody, Thanks for the repats I really appreciate your concern. Since last time I wrote things have happened. This man has escalated his attempts to contact me, to the point where I had to block him unfortunately. I never thaught it would come to this. But I think this will help both him and m...

Just pointing out to the general reader that "childhood trauma" doesn't necessarily involve parents being the cause of the trauma. I think there is this misconception that parents are ultimately to blame. Not so. In my opinion, all it means is that something happened to a person who was n...

You definitely bear a significant amount of blame for the end of your marriage. You could have been direct, completely cutting off contact with this man when you realized that the situation was damaging your marriage, but you preferred to continue to hope, because perhaps deep down you wanted to ha...

Wow Angel, that's a fascinating history with him. Have a look around the forum at other stories and you might find something similar. It sounds like he cherished your friendship. Could you be viewing it as an obsession instead of friendship? What makes you think it's limerence? I'd love to hear mor...

From what I have been reading here, givning mixed signals is something to really avoid. Mixed signals is possibly the biggest trigger for those prone to falling limerent, becoming hooked (obsessed with a person). We call LO - limerent OBJECT. It's not you he fell for, it would be the compliments (o...

And I also forgot to mention, one of the main reasons why I just cant cut contact and go NC with him, is that I really feel quite guilty. Why ? Well it is I believe because of me he never got into another relationship and didnt have children. It is a very heavy burden to bear. Maybe it is not becau...

And I also forgot to mention, one of the main reasons why I just cant cut contact and go NC with him, is that I really feel quite guilty. Why ? Well it is I believe because of me he never got into another relationship and didnt have children. It is a very heavy burden to bear. Maybe it is not becaus...

This may come across as sounding blunt and I don't want to put you off posting as others might have a different view... I didnt want to he inpolite since he always is very kind to me. ^^^ perhaps focus on how to stop 'people-pleasing' behavior? You can't do anything to change his behavior or mindse...

Hi there everybody, I am new to this forum, just recently found out that this ”problem” I have has a name. I am a woman in my 40,s, and for all of my adult life I have had a man contacting me every other day, for the last 25 years. So I am the LO so to speak. And it is not fun at all, I tell you. In...