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+1 # Jade Lee 2017-03-04 19:43
Spot on. NC is the only way. Take it from me, folks. I'm a serial limerent: This is the ONLY thing that works. It's so hard to hear, but it works.

It's been 1.5 years since I had any contact w my LO (mutual decision). Things are much better for me, but it still comes back to haunt me, even make me cry at times.

Key for me after going NC: 1) Attending Obsessive Compulsive Anonymous 12-step group meetings weekly, 2) attending meetings @ a recovery center for ppl recovering from substance abuse & mental illness, 3) learning & regularly practicing mindfulness meditation, 4) escaping a BAD marriage that contributed to chronic limerence, and 5) Taking VERY good care of my physical & psychiatric help & staying on meds.

Blessings to any limerent in recovery.
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+1 # Ceebee 2018-05-31 23:02
Thanks so much Jade!
Although I can't seem to download video, I was somewhat close to telling my LO ( a coworker I've worked with successfully for years) that I am attracted to her, even though logically this would make ZERO sense because I seem to pick women who are emotionally unavailable. Ready to put on brakes now, thanks to you and this awesome site! Blessings to you too!
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0 # Barbra 2017-03-22 20:31
What happens when I've already disclosed?
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0 # David 2017-03-22 22:11
Quoting Barbra:
What happens when I've already disclosed?

See the main forum for support and insights.
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0 # Jade 2019-03-27 03:34
If the feelings aren't mutual (and they seldom are) you will feel embarrassed. If not immediately, then eventually. Very, VErY embarrassed. I wanted to craw in a hole & die. I felt so ashamed -- like I was a crazy person who'd just told everyone w ears to hear that she is indeed crazy. Similar to the feeling of a room full of people you know (esp the LO) suddenly seeing you naked, and then turning around and avoiding you whilst whispering to others about it.
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