Spot on. NC is the only way. Take it from me, folks. I'm a serial limerent: This is the ONLY thing that works. It's so hard to hear, but it works.
It's been 1.5 years since I had any contact w my LO (mutual decision). Things are much better for me, but it still comes back to haunt me, even make me cry at times.
Key for me after going NC: 1) Attending Obsessive Compulsive Anonymous 12-step group meetings weekly, 2) attending meetings @ a recovery center for ppl recovering from substance abuse & mental illness, 3) learning & regularly practicing mindfulness meditation, 4) escaping a BAD marriage that contributed to chronic limerence, and 5) Taking VERY good care of my physical & psychiatric help & staying on meds.
Thanks so much Jade! Although I can't seem to download video, I was somewhat close to telling my LO ( a coworker I've worked with successfully for years) that I am attracted to her, even though logically this would make ZERO sense because I seem to pick women who are emotionally unavailable. Ready to put on brakes now, thanks to you and this awesome site! Blessings to you too!
If the feelings aren't mutual (and they seldom are) you will feel embarrassed. If not immediately, then eventually. Very, VErY embarrassed. I wanted to craw in a hole & die. I felt so ashamed -- like I was a crazy person who'd just told everyone w ears to hear that she is indeed crazy. Similar to the feeling of a room full of people you know (esp the LO) suddenly seeing you naked, and then turning around and avoiding you whilst whispering to others about it.
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It's been 1.5 years since I had any contact w my LO (mutual decision). Things are much better for me, but it still comes back to haunt me, even make me cry at times.
Key for me after going NC: 1) Attending Obsessive Compulsive Anonymous 12-step group meetings weekly, 2) attending meetings @ a recovery center for ppl recovering from substance abuse & mental illness, 3) learning & regularly practicing mindfulness meditation, 4) escaping a BAD marriage that contributed to chronic limerence, and 5) Taking VERY good care of my physical & psychiatric help & staying on meds.
Blessings to any limerent in recovery.
Although I can't seem to download video, I was somewhat close to telling my LO ( a coworker I've worked with successfully for years) that I am attracted to her, even though logically this would make ZERO sense because I seem to pick women who are emotionally unavailable. Ready to put on brakes now, thanks to you and this awesome site! Blessings to you too!
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