Welcome to a support forum for all those impacted by limerence, unrequited love, love-addiction, obsessive love, romantic infatuation and affair recovery.
Have you struggled with an obsessive infatuation? Feelings of being addicted to a person? Or had an obsessive crush that doesn't seem to go away? Have you had an emotional or physical affair and are trying to recover from the impact? Has your partner been struggling with any of the above and as a consequence affected you and your relationship?
If you have, then you have found a safe and welcoming place where you can gain insight into your feelings and behaviours. The limerence.net user's support forum, (click here to go the forum) offers a safe place that offers non-judgemental mutual support. You will find genuine and sincere advice for those impacted and seeking recovery. We request you show mutual respect as this site contains people at all stages of limerence, love-addiction and affair recovery.
We have all been there and know that in the early stages many of us are left feeling overwhelmed, fragile and vulnerable.
What is limerence?
Limerence is an involuntary state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated.
Many argue limerence is common at the beginning of most romantic relationships and with reciprocation, it transforms into a more secure and enduring love. Where the progression of a romantic relationship is hindered (often by marriage or other long term relationship) and where the uncertainty remains, enduring limerence often ensues.
At the heart of love addiction and limerence is the fantasy that someone else can solve our problems, provide unconditional "other-esteem" at all times and take care of us. When this unrealistic need isn’t met, love addicts may find themselves feeling resentful, and may create conflict in their relationships with others.
Symptoms of limerence
- Intrusive and obsessive thinking about the object of our infatuation - referred to as the Limerent Object (LO).
- Replay and rehearsal of interactions with our LO.
- Anxiety and self-consciousness around the LO.
- Emotional dependence on our LO. Impaired functioning around our LO.
For a more detailed explanation of the symptoms - see here http://www.limerence.net/limerence-faq/limerence-symptoms.html
Treatment for limerence
Much can be done to help us transition through our limerence. For an extensive list see here: http://www.limerence.net/limerence-faq/limerence-treatment.html